The world defines intimacy as a sexual encounter, to be 'intimate' with someone. But really, casual sex encounters have no intimacy in them, and I would argue that any sexual encounters outside of a marriage hold very little intimacy, if any.
Doubting your physical prowess or your ability to please your wife? Wondering why your body does what it does? It’s our responsibility to steward our bodies. Even if you don’t want to talk about this...you need to.
This month we have Debra Fileta here to bring a small teaser for you ladies (and any men listening in) to help normalize the conversation around what gets HER going and inspire you to not settle for less than God's best in whatever season of marriage you are in. Whether it's your mindsets, your moods, your body...there's so much more to talk about!
Getting ready for your wedding? Let’s talk about the practicals of your honeymoon night. You've said "I do", celebrated, ate the cake, said goodbye and entered your bedroom with your new spouse. Now what? Let’s give you some very practical examples to make sure you’re enjoying your honeymoon and new sex life together. Warning: explicit content.
Purity in God’s eyes is not something you lose, it’s a daily choice to walk in obedience according to His plan and purposes for your life. With that said if you are single, soon to be married, you’ve been married for a while or even if you’ve lived most of your life in rebellion against God- purity is something attainable to you.
Dr. Glenn and Phyllis join us today to talk about finding sexual and relational connection. The organization Connection Codes will equip you with everything you need to put an end to disconnection in your marriage and parenting. If you long for more in your relationships, this is for you.
Biological parents, step parents, grandparents, friends, teachers, coaches, mentors... we all have the same challenge: Our teens need our leadership and guidance through their most volatile season of life, but we'll only be influential in their lives to the degree that they feel safe around us, heard by us, and unconditionally loved by us.
What does God actually believe about sex? In this conversation, our directors Cole & Cait assess the source of our belief system. Not the conscience source but the sub conscience. What do you believe? Why do you believe it? Where did that belief system come from... especially in the area of sexuality. They dive into how important it is to be intentional to have our belief systems rooted in biblical truth rather than in the world.
“Sex is not a social construct, it’s the way God has decided to reveal himself” Chris Cruz, Bethel Church’s Young Adult Pastor shares his message on the theology of sex. This message is a mix of his own personal revelation from the Lord partnered with biblical understanding about the difference between human understanding vs God’s real intentions for sex. From intimacy, to conversation, to protection, to emotions, sex is sacred and telling a story that is all put together to be worship unto Him.
When you see someone you’re attracted to, awesome, opportunity time. Ask yourself, “what am I attracted to about this person? What do I like about him/her?” Is it his confidence? Is it her kindness? Does he represent a really good caring dad to me - one that I wish I was or wish I had when I was growing up?
Join Debra Fileta who is a licensed professional counselor who is focused on relationships, and an advocate for “healthy people make healthy relationships”. In this podcast Debra, Caitlin and Sloane dive into the common myths about purity culture and break the boxes surrounding them. “It isn’t a toxic purity culture, it’s toxic shame culture. Purity is not toxic, it is the shame, the isolation, the hiding.” Sex is so sacred and is created to be beautiful within the perimeters of marriage. In Debra’s story, shame and guilt didn’t help her break free of sexual sin but the realization that sex is God’s gift and is beautiful in the right place and time. Perspective is empowering, before marriage, but also how it impacts us within a marriage. It is time for all of us to break out of the shame of our histories and step into the fullness God has for us!!!
If you want to hear more from Debra her Instagram handle is @truelovedates
Resources:
True Love Dates by Debra Fileta
Choosing Marriage by Debra Fileta
Love in every season by Debra Fileta
The Naked Truth about Sexuality by Havilah Cunnington
If you’re watching porn thinking it will teach you something about sex, you’re training for the wrong game. Porn will give you an education, but it only teaches toxic, exaggerated, and fantasized lessons that harm individuals and relationships.