Controlling behavior in Christian dating often hides behind spiritual language. When someone uses God, modesty standards, or "headship" to dictate how you dress, who you talk to, and how you live your life, that's not leadership. That's control. Here's how…
"God told me we're supposed to be together" is not a conversation starter. It's a pressure tactic. If someone's "word from the Lord" about your relationship doesn't leave room for your own discernment, free will, or a simple no, something…
Coming into the church from a dark background can feel just as isolating as being in the world. When someone carries real trauma, real addiction, or a story that doesn’t fit the typical testimony template, the church’s response often determines…
Walking with someone through unwanted same-sex attraction is a discipleship journey, not a fix-it project. The most effective approach starts with empathy, honors their courage, encourages their unique identity, and disciples the whole person rather than fixating on sexuality. Here's…
It could feel like you’re not allowed to struggle. You may even be ashamed and secretly reading this article hoping no one looks. Or pretending you’re doing research to help someone else out when you really know you need help. It’s okay to need help.
So many people wait until the new year to make a new year's resolution and start getting healthy mentally, physically, and emotionally -- but why wait when you can start TODAY?
Churches are becoming afraid to offer us support since any approach suggesting emotional healing or restoration in one’s sexuality could be called “conversion therapy,” or worse, anti-LGBTQ hate. We Christians who have experienced LGBTQ, whether openly gay or closeted in our churches, wrestle with our public response to Christ. The uproar over so-called “conversion therapy” reveals the painful challenge of that pursuit.
Many believers have developed a theology that proactively uses the Bible to disqualify women from the most formidable roles of leadership, especially in the Church. I am appalled by the number of Christian leaders who are convinced that women are not as qualified, called, and/or gifted to lead as men. The argument for disempowering women is illogical, unscriptural and beyond-outdated!
We’ve been handed a problem and we’ve been unknowingly contributing to it. For far too long the church has been precluded from the cultural narratives of sexuality. Our near-fatal mistake has been that our only message on the topic is, “No! Don’t be led by evil desires.” As pornography, casual sex, and the introduction of media began to shape culture, we were shaped by fear and lack of understanding. Now we are facing the consequences of our fear-based response.
When was the last time you experienced true affection at church? For many Christians a handshake as you’re leaving Sunday service has become the norm. We don’t expect anything more from each other because we’ve been taught that we shouldn’t…
One night, exhausted from a long, hard week of work as an automotive technician managing a repair shop in the Bay Area, I got in the bathtub to relax my tired body while my wife Kathy lay sick in her…
LIES vs TRUTH There are mindsets that many people in the church are walking around with that labels dating as “unhealthy”. We want to expose the common lies that come out of this mindset, and replace it with truth and scripture.…