In some circles of the Church, divorce is equal to the unpardonable sin. People who’ve been divorced are treated as if they have the plague. They can’t serve in their church and they’re not trusted. Having suffered through a divorce…
“Kiss me and kiss me again, for your love is sweeter than wine.” Song of Songs 1:2 I’ll never forget the first time I saw my wife Erica drive onto our college campus. It was fall semester of our sophomore year. She was…
Character, communication and choosing love will sustain, revive and renew a relationship for the long-haul. “Personality” is easy to understand. Your “personality” is how people experience you. It’s your public persona. Character is who you are when no one…
Growing up, when my parents would ask me a question like, “Why did you put that there?” I’d hear an attack. I also learned as a little child that when the chocolate got put out, I should shove as much…
Pornography can feel like a python squeezing the life out of you. I know first hand, I was caught in the trap for years. The struggle can feel like a vicious cycle that pulls you deeper into hurt and isolation.…
In my conservative, evangelical background, girls were raised to believe that we weren’t as important as men. Only men got the “good” gifts, like leadership and teaching. Our job as women was to teach children’s Sunday school and bake casseroles…
Forgiveness is key As an introduction to this FAQ, we need to discuss the importance of forgiveness in the healing and restoration process. The Bible shows us that repentance (a change of heart that leads to a change of…
Staying faithful to my wife was a solemn promise I made to her before God. I utterly intended to keep that promise to the end of our days. I lived without doubt that nothing could ever tempt me to do…
A while back I dated a girl who was extremely insecure and for some reason I took on the responsibility of “fixing” her. I made it my goal to make sure she knew how incredibly beautiful and lovely she was.…
When I look back on my life, I see that when I was in relationship with someone, I was focused on how much could I get, and how much would they give. After I took all I could out of…
Have you ever noticed that wedding bands look a lot like tiny handcuffs? I’m being funny. But, you have to admit, it’s an accurate description of the covenant they represent. Not the prison part…the never-leaving, never-forsaking, “death-do-us-part” part. Unfortunately, many…
I never learned about love and intimacy and being romantic, nor to love my wife as Christ loved the church. If my parents taught me about that kind of love, I missed it. I heard about love and intimacy and…
