“A 23 Year Old What?” A 23 year old virgin. How would you describe me? Desirable? Attractive? Pathetic? Inexperienced? Mature? Lucky? Wise? I guess this probably depends on your thoughts about virginity. Or maybe on your experience. Maybe you’re still…
In part one of this series we talked about our “sex needs,” followed by how to find our real needs in part two. This brings us to our last question: “So, if I don’t need sex, why does sex and/or sexual…
Let’s be honest: When we ask, “How do I get my needs met in a healthy way?” what we’re probably really asking is: “How do I fulfill my sexual desire in a way that is satisfying, but not sinful?” And…
Getting Our Needs Met In A Healthy Way Here at Moral Revolution, we spend a great deal of time discussing our human needs. The body, soul, and spirit all have legitimate needs, too. Our bodies need air, food, water, shelter and human contact. Our…
“Why should I be a virgin anyway?” “It’s my life so who cares?” These are questions that ran through my mind as a young teenage girl…all of which were left unanswered, for me to figure out by myself. I had…
Are we dating or loving?Can we or should we be doing both? Are we looking to try on a ‘nice piece’ when we date, to see if it ‘suits’’ us, or are we tentatively, carefully and cautiously searching out the…
QUESTION Why is it that when I masturbate, it brings me so much shame? Is that common? SEX THERAPIST’S ANSWER That is a great question! You are definitely not alone in feeling shame when you masturbate – it is…
QUESTION I’ve given up on masturbation, however, throughout daily life there are things that will arouse me and I eliminate those thoughts as soon as they come so I do not fall into lust. However, I’m now dealing with the…
QUICK FIX Single. Hurting. And independent. A great combination for masturbation. Or any sexual activity for that matter. Fortunately, my oath to singleness kept me from further sexual activity, but it’s all the same. A band aid applied to the…
GOING THROUGH SHAME TO GET TO GOD I remember the first time I masturbated. I was on a school trip to Germany, sharing a testosterone-charged room with my peers. We were all competing to prove that we were making it…
THE AUTHOR OF MY HEART Most of my life, I have attempted to control, stifle, and sometimes completely disown my desires. Unfortunately, when dealing with sexual desire and longing for intimacy, I was unaware that they could be expressed in…
WORTH WAITING FOR Before I knew my wife, I had a couple of serious relationships. Since I was a child, I knew I would not give away my virginity to anyone except my wife, so that part of purity was…