At age eighteen, I started working in the sex industry. At age nineteen, I was addicted to drugs and alcohol, making thousands of dollars a month, and completely dead to myself. I honestly didn’t care what happened to me anymore.…
I was staring at the screen my eyes fixated, glued, to what I was seeing. What was happening? Why weren’t people wearing any clothes? I didn’t understand. Why were people touching each other like that and why on earth did…
When I first came to Bethel Church, one of my primary roles was counseling. I counseled about six people a day, four days a week, for about three years. Most of the people I worked with would identify themselves as…
Question Are chick flicks and romantic comedies a pseudo-source for meeting emotional needs for a woman, in the same way that pornography is a pseudo-source for meeting the need for intimacy for a man? And do romantic comedies create…
What is an addiction? An addiction is a compulsive need for and use of a habit-forming substance. Compulsive describes a strong, usually irresistible impulse to perform an act, especially one that is irrational or contrary to one’s will. Addictions are…
My life is full. Very full. This isn’t a bad thing – my life is full of the things I love. I am pastoring, speaking, writing, making podcasts, and doing life with my family. Sometimes this can be bad, though. My attention span…
Pornography can feel like a python squeezing the life out of you. I know first hand, I was caught in the trap for years. The struggle can feel like a vicious cycle that pulls you deeper into hurt and isolation.…
50 Shades of Grey romanticizes a nightmare of violence and abuse that many only wish they could escape. Even some in favor of consentual BDSM practices are remarking that 50 Shades depicts rape, manipulation, control and violent abuse. Why then, is…
QUESTION As a child I was made a child prostitute, tortured regularly, and used for child porn. After a lot of therapy I am still addicted to BDSM porn. It calms me down while it is horrifying at the same time.…
QUESTION How do I move forward in my marriage? I have been married for 23 years and there has always been a third in our lives: porn! Any way he can get it, he would, and the Internet has opened…
QUESTION I stopped masturbating and watching pornography awhile ago and God set me free from it but the way I look, think about, and treat women is totally wrong. It’s like porn has left an imprint on me of wrong…
QUESTION I feel God has delivered me from pornography, but after I have sex with my wife, I feel like I’m fighting those same demons again! Right now we expect different things from sex. However, I feel the most victorious…