Silencing Shame
Have you ever heard that little voice in your head say…? “You don’t fit in” “Nobody likes you” “You’re stupid” “You’re the only one who has made this mistake” “How could God love you? I mean He really knows…
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How Do You Manage Your Sex Drive Without….You Know?
QUESTION How do you manage your sex drive or your desire to have sex without masturbating? Masturbation has been presented to me as my only option and I’m wondering, is there any other way? How can I manage my desires…
One Day at a Time
I never learned about love and intimacy and being romantic, nor to love my wife as Christ loved the church. If my parents taught me about that kind of love, I missed it. I heard about love and intimacy and…
Getting Our Needs Met In A Healthy Way Part 2
In part one of this series we talked about our “sex needs,” followed by how to find our real needs in part two. This brings us to our last question: “So, if I don’t need sex, why does sex and/or sexual…
Getting Our Needs Met In A Healthy Way
Let’s be honest: When we ask, “How do I get my needs met in a healthy way?” what we’re probably really asking is: “How do I fulfill my sexual desire in a way that is satisfying, but not sinful?” And…
Shame in Masturbating
QUESTION Why is it that when I masturbate, it brings me so much shame? Is that common? SEX THERAPIST’S ANSWER That is a great question! You are definitely not alone in feeling shame when you masturbate – it is…
Blue Balls
QUESTION I’ve given up on masturbation, however, throughout daily life there are things that will arouse me and I eliminate those thoughts as soon as they come so I do not fall into lust. However, I’m now dealing with the…
How Do I Renew My Mind After A Porn Addiction?
QUESTION I stopped masturbating and watching pornography awhile ago and God set me free from it but the way I look, think about, and treat women is totally wrong. It’s like porn has left an imprint on me of wrong…
Pornography and Addiction
THE REALITY: AN ABUNDANT LIFE Mike Bickle says in his book, ‘The Seven Longings of the Human Heart’, Addiction wraps itself around a person, giving their natural appetites an artificial life of their own, while simultaneously short-circuiting their ability to…
Redemptive Love in Redding
FINDING FREEDOM FROM PAIN I was born to a single teen mom. My dad left three months into the pregnancy leaving my mom was devastated. She cried all the time and as a result, I felt abandoned by my father and…
Decisions For Tomorrow
QUICK FIX Single. Hurting. And independent. A great combination for masturbation. Or any sexual activity for that matter. Fortunately, my oath to singleness kept me from further sexual activity, but it’s all the same. A band aid applied to the…
Giving God Control
TRADING SHAME FOR JOY From an early age, sex became an interesting and a secret desire. It wasn’t until I was in middle school that it became a daily struggle in my life. I began masturbating every night and it…