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Common Myths About Purity Culture

Join Debra Fileta who is a licensed professional counselor who is focused on relationships, and an advocate for “healthy people make healthy relationships”. In this podcast Debra, Caitlin and Sloane dive into the common myths about purity culture and break the boxes surrounding them. “It isn’t a toxic purity culture, it’s toxic shame culture. Purity is not toxic, it is the shame, the isolation, the hiding.” Sex is so sacred and is created to be beautiful within the perimeters of marriage. In Debra’s story, shame and guilt didn’t help her break free of sexual sin but the realization that sex is God’s gift and is beautiful in the right place and time. Perspective is empowering, before marriage, but also how it impacts us within a marriage. It is time for all of us to break out of the shame of our histories and step into the fullness God has for us!!!

If you want to hear more from Debra her Instagram handle is @truelovedates

Resources:

True Love Dates by Debra Fileta

Choosing Marriage by Debra Fileta

Love in every season by Debra Fileta

The Naked Truth about Sexuality by Havilah Cunnington

What Porn Fails to Teach About Real Sex and Relationships

If you’re watching porn thinking it will teach you something about sex, you’re training for the wrong game. Porn will give you an education, but it only teaches toxic, exaggerated, and fantasized lessons that harm individuals and relationships.

10 Tips About Marriage You Need To Know

Before you’re married it’s easy to see marriage as the grande finale. It’s the thing we dream of and live for. It’s the force propelling us forward into this destination we call life. And then it finally comes! Now what?

Why Do I Have a Sex Drive?

Our sex drive allows us to connect with our spouse and create a bond for life. It’s the glue that seals together. As much as we’d like to think we’re rubber and people can just bounce off of us, the reality is that when we have sexual encounters, we’re being glued together.

From Casual to Committed

Join Damien Giacchino, who is the associate pastor at Real Life Church in Sacramento California and has his masters degree in counseling. Damien joins Caitlin Zick and Sloane Wilson and shares his story of how the Lord restored his life from living a worldly life to encountering the Lord and having his story be redeemed. During his pursuit of the Lord, he was given the message of the importance of not awakening love too early. He talks about the effect of hookup culture, the impact of having the voice of fathers/mothers in our lives, the pursuit of abstinence, how to manage loneliness while single and much more!! If you want to hear more from Damien his Instagram handle is @dgiacchino.

Implementing Body Safety Rules

We realized that we couldn’t expect our children to express what made them uncomfortable or scared if we didn’t teach them to understand and express a broad range of feelings, especially the uncomfortable and difficult ones. Our hope is that as we create space throughout our days to talk about difficult feelings, our children will be able to more easily verbalize instances where someone makes them feel unsafe or touches them inappropriately.

Women Struggle Too

Friends- do not keep this in the dark anymore. Go tell someone! The enemy wants us to believe that we should be embarrassed or shameful but thats not truth. The Lord died on the cross for ALL of our sins. Not just some - ALL. This is a normal thing women go through - don't let the enemy tell you that you are the only one. I would encourage you to find someone to keep you accountable in this. When you feel temptation coming... text or call them.

The Holidays: A Time to Strengthen Connection

When it comes to being a safe place, healthy communication is essential. Refuse to engage in disrespectful conversations. Bravely step into vulnerable conversations where you show the person your heart and invite an exchange of truth. Listen well, seek to understand them, identify what they are needing, and help to meet that need.

4 Tips for Dating During Covid-19

In a recent survey I conducted, one of the top 3 ways currently married people found their partner was thanks to the world of online dating websites and apps. All this to say, people are using online platforms more than ever before, and with the stay at home orders, the online dating world has seen an increase in numbers of people.

This is Your Brain on Porn

As a child, you were creating habits and building these connections at a faster and stronger rate than at any other point in your life. So, the earlier and more frequently you experience things like porn, abuse, and sexuality, the more these things feel like they are part of you.