Sex, Jesus, & Conversations the Church Forgot – ft/ Mo Isom Aiken
Sex. It’s everywhere in our culture, but in so many instances the church is still too uncomfortable to talk about it.
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Virginity Isn’t Purity: Why the Church Got It Wrong
Virginity is not the same as purity. You can be a virgin and have a completely impure heart. You can have lost your virginity and be walking in deep, genuine purity before God. When the church reduces purity to a…
Let’s Get Practical: 8 Tips for Walking Out Purity
I've sat in the front row of really inspirational church services, staring at the speaker thinking, "Yes. This is it. I will never be the same after this message. My life is changed forever." I've also woken up the next day, been hit with the normalcy and routine of life and thought, "Wait, what did that speaker say at church yesterday?"
We can have all the inspiration in the world pointing us to a life of purity, but without practical ways to walk it out, inspiration fades and we can often find ourselves in the same cycles. So in this post, we are about to get really practical.
Sobriety vs. Freedom: Why Quitting Porn Isn’t the Same as Being Free
Sobriety is the absence of porn. Freedom is the presence of the life Jesus paid for. Most men measure their progress by how long it's been since they last acted out. But freedom isn't a streak counter. It's a direction…
Why You’re Not Getting Free From Porn – ft/ Aaron Zint
It’s not uncommon to hear of men struggling with porn, but it’s less common to hear men NOT watching porn anymore. Why does it seem to be so complicated to get...
The 3 Hidden Drivers of Porn Addiction (And Why Willpower Alone Won’t Work)
Porn addiction isn't really about porn. The three hidden drivers behind most men's porn use are isolation, passivity, and unprocessed pain. Until you address what's happening beneath the surface, no amount of willpower, accountability apps, or internet filters will produce…
How to Disciple Someone Through Unwanted Same-Sex Attraction: A Practical Guide
Walking with someone through unwanted same-sex attraction is a discipleship journey, not a fix-it project. The most effective approach starts with empathy, honors their courage, encourages their unique identity, and disciples the whole person rather than fixating on sexuality. Here's…
What to NOT SAY (and say) When Someone “Comes Out” As Gay?
It’s becoming more and more common for someone you know to “come out” as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or questioning. But what should a Christian’s response be? What is the right language to meet someone with compassion yet hold a standard of truth? While discovering these, we realized there are many well-meaning Christians or pastors who think they’re saying the right thing, but cause more hurt and damage to the individual’s healing journey. Caleb Boggan, Director of Pastoral Care at CHANGED Movement, has gathered these top ten responses as “Failed First Responses” and helps us know what TO say instead.
What to Say (and Not Say) When Someone Comes Out As Gay
When someone comes out to you, your first response matters more than you think. Don't quote scripture at them. Don't panic. Don't try to fix them. Lead with empathy, honor the courage it took to tell you, and make it…
How to Be Sure That You’re Ready to Date
Dating: it’s one of the most confusing subjects in the world today. Why should you date? When should you date? How should you date? So much of our society has approached dating relationships like a nomad’s journey with no real starting…