Child Prostitution, Abuse, and BDSM Porn

QUESTION As a child I was made a child prostitute, tortured regularly, and used for child porn. After a lot of therapy I am still addicted to BDSM porn. It calms me down while it is horrifying at the same time.…

Shame in Masturbating

QUESTION  Why is it that when I masturbate, it brings me so much shame? Is that common?   SEX THERAPIST’S ANSWER That is a great question! You are definitely not alone in feeling shame when you masturbate – it is…

Blue Balls

QUESTION I’ve given up on masturbation, however, throughout daily life there are things that will arouse me and I eliminate those thoughts as soon as they come so I do not fall into lust. However, I’m now dealing with the…

My Spouse is Addicted to Porn … Help!

QUESTION How do I move forward in my marriage? I have been married for 23 years and there has always been a third in our lives: porn! Any way he can get it, he would, and the Internet has opened…

How Do I Renew My Mind After A Porn Addiction?

QUESTION I stopped masturbating and watching pornography awhile ago and God set me free from it but the way I look, think about, and treat women is totally wrong. It’s like porn has left an imprint on me of wrong…

Sex in Marriage … After a Porn Addiction

QUESTION I feel God has delivered me from pornography, but after I have sex with my wife, I feel like I’m fighting those same demons again! Right now we expect different things from sex. However, I feel the most victorious…

The Honeymoon Night

QUESTION I am a virgin, but one day when I am married (hopefully) I’ll have sex. I keep hearing all of my friends that are going to get married talk about having to stretch themselves so that their husbands will…

Sexting

SEXTING QUESTION Is sexting or sending naked pictures wrong to do between a boyfriend and girlfriend? What if it makes them feel closer or more connected? I have read in the Bible of stories where someone saw somebody else naked…

Are Abortions Safer Than Having a Baby?

QUESTION  I’ve heard that having an abortion is actually safer than having a baby. Is this true?   DOCTOR’S ANSWER No, though we’ve heard the sales pitch about it being otherwise, haven’t we? A long term study from Finland published in…

Is Birth Control Morally Right?

QUESTION I’m a newly-wed. My wife wants to have sex using condoms/pills to prevent pregnancy. I don’t think that is morally right for the same reason I am against abortion. I understand that sex is about intimacy, but it is…