Are You Aware of Your Soul Needs?
WHAT IS BEAUTY? How long does it take you to get ready in the morning? For both women and men, we shower, fix our hair, brush our teeth, and do the best we can to look beautiful on the outside,…
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Do You Deserve to Be Forgiven?
FORGIVENESS RESTORES THE STANDARD I learned this lesson years ago when my kids were teenagers. I became angry with Kathy in front of them and treated her disrespectfully. An hour later, I apologized, and she forgave me. But when I…
Finding Freedom from Anxiety
One night, exhausted from a long, hard week of work as an automotive technician managing a repair shop in the Bay Area, I got in the bathtub to relax my tired body while my wife Kathy lay sick in her…
9 Steps To A New Life
Countless people are imprisoned by life-controlling sin and mind-numbing fear. Here are nine strategies on how to escape the grasp of the enemy and win the battle against hopelessness. If you are held hostage by the fear of failure,…
Understanding Addictions
What is an addiction? An addiction is a compulsive need for and use of a habit-forming substance. Compulsive describes a strong, usually irresistible impulse to perform an act, especially one that is irrational or contrary to one’s will. Addictions are…
Dealing With Abuse
When people counsel women (or men for that matter) to stay in dangerous situations in the name of “submission” they need to have their heads checked. A wife was never called to be a zookeeper, a lion tamer, or…
Riches to Rags, Rags to Riches
I went to high school in the early ’70s in the midst of the so-called Sexual Revolution. The motto of our times was, “If you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you’re with.”1 Of course, this…
4 Ways to Subdue the Strongholds of Shame
As discussed in previous blogs (Silencing Shame and Disconnecting Shame), shame is feeling unworthy. Guilt says, “I did a bad thing,” while shame says, “I am bad.” Shame has many faces, conveying varying messages of ill being, coaxing its…
Disconnecting Shame
Sadly, divorce is ravaging our families and our society. Among the top reasons for divorce are poor communication, arguing, infidelity, and stagnation: Disconnection – Shame. Divorce is a reality in our culture because shame is a reality of our culture.…
Silencing Shame
Have you ever heard that little voice in your head say…? “You don’t fit in” “Nobody likes you” “You’re stupid” “You’re the only one who has made this mistake” “How could God love you? I mean He really knows…
My Mess Becomes a Message
A positive pregnancy test? My heart sank. How could this be? I was only seventeen. I just wanted it to disappear. Fear flooded my entire being. They promised I would be okay. They assured me they could “help.” They promised…
Is There Hope After Divorce?
In some circles of the Church, divorce is equal to the unpardonable sin. People who’ve been divorced are treated as if they have the plague. They can’t serve in their church and they’re not trusted. Having suffered through a divorce…