Let's Get Practical: 8 Tips for Walking Out Purity

I've sat in the front row of really inspirational church services, staring at the speaker thinking, "Yes. This is it. I will never be the same after this message. My life is changed forever." I've also woken up the next day, been hit with the normalcy and routine of life and thought, "Wait, what did that speaker say at church yesterday?"

We can have all the inspiration in the world pointing us to a life of purity, but without practical ways to walk it out, inspiration fades and we can often find ourselves in the same cycles. So in this post, we are about to get really practical.

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