Put Your Promise Back On

I bought my purity ring when I was fifteen. I remember everything about that day. I remember being so excited to give God my entire life, making a promise that I would wait to have sex until I got married.…

Why Depending on a Spouse to Make You Happy Doesn’t Work

Fairytales and movies are teaching people that once they find their Prince (or Princess) Charming, all will be right in the world. They tell tales of finding “the one” who will make you the happiest person on earth. The resolution…

Denying Ourselves. Loving Gay People.

Who we love, how we love, whether or not we can love and leave, and the penalty for certain expressions of love are being questioned. Secular culture is confronting the Church’s inability to articulate the greatest commandment.

I Didn’t Expect God to Change My Sexuality

Throughout most of my life, I never belonged. I always felt excluded, and I questioned my sexuality and my gender. I hated the idea of being feminine because it was so foreign. I didn’t feel like a girl, but I…

If You’re Single (And Tired of It)

“What would your life look like without any fear?” These words woke my heart up a few years ago. At that time, I had my future all planned out: I was going to finish college, get a good job, eventually…

The Process Is Part of the Promise

“Acknowledging the mess is half the battle.”  In most cases, I totally agree with this statement. I also then wish some army of people would come fight the other half of the battle and do the hard work for me.…

Let’s Talk About “The Talk”

Before my wife, Jenn, and I had a fourteen and nineteen-year-old, we had the privilege of being youth pastors for thirteen years.  Over the years, I have asked more than a few teens and adults, “What was the conversation you…

Proactive Parenting: Stopping Porn Before It Starts

Unfortunately, the question is not “what do I do IF my child finds pornography?” but “what do I do WHEN my child finds pornography?” How do we help them stay connected and stay or get free in a world of sexually charged images? With special guests Graeme Morris of BraveTestimony and Marriage & Family Therapist Doug Boyd, the team talks about the dangerous effects of pornography and what steps to take when your son or daughter discovers pornography.