Throughout most of my life, I never belonged. I always felt excluded, and I questioned my sexuality and my gender. I hated the idea of being feminine because it was so foreign. I didn’t feel like a girl, but I…
“What would your life look like without any fear?” These words woke my heart up a few years ago. At that time, I had my future all planned out: I was going to finish college, get a good job, eventually…
“Acknowledging the mess is half the battle.” In most cases, I totally agree with this statement. I also then wish some army of people would come fight the other half of the battle and do the hard work for me.…
Before my wife, Jenn, and I had a fourteen and nineteen-year-old, we had the privilege of being youth pastors for thirteen years. Over the years, I have asked more than a few teens and adults, “What was the conversation you…
So you finally got the date. Maybe a miracle happened and a man was given the sight and courage to not only see you, but ask you out. Maybe after your twelve-year sentence to the friend zone, you found a…
You probably remember the first time you learned about sex. Maybe it was a series of strange metaphors meddled with a list of scientific facts from your parents. Maybe an older sibling or kid on the playground told you all…
I was staring at the screen my eyes fixated, glued, to what I was seeing. What was happening? Why weren’t people wearing any clothes? I didn’t understand. Why were people touching each other like that and why on earth did…
If you read my last post, you’ll know I’m pretty passionate about relationships and particularly about seeing our Christian dating culture change from “high stakes” to a healthy pursuit of connection. Marriage is high stakes. Engagement is high stakes. A coffee…
In my last post, I challenged the guys to lead the way in crushing our high stakes dating culture, and this week I have some thoughts for the girls. Ladies, this is for you. Can you go from “high stakes” to “why…
During my experience as a pastor, I’ve had the privilege of spending time with a lot of people in really healthy marriages. I’ve realized that no matter how they met, what they’ve walked through, the one thing that makes a…