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It's time that Christian men set the standard for risk, romance, wholeness, and pursuit. We believe men in this generation can do it. Date Well exists to empower single and dating men to thrive and win in their relationship with God, themselves, and their dating life. This unique program gives you access to incredible in-depth teachings, frequently updated hot topic videos, and a community of supportive like-minded men around the world.

Date Well exists to empower single Christian women to heal their inner world, build a foundation for healthy relationships, and connect with God’s perspective on singleness and dating. Over the course of 12 weeks, we’ll talk through major teachings within the topics of identity, trust, vision, dating philosophy, and dating strategy. You’ll even have the ability to engage with your group during live sessions via chat box! To help build even more community, we’ll have a Facebook page that will feature weekly writing prompts, bonus “hot topic” sessions, and live Q&A’s with our core team! Dating as a christian woman in this generation is complex, let us help you simplify it- sign up today!

Teach kids refusal skills for digital dangers. Offer your students age 8-12 an engaging, video-based curriculum to keep them safe from cyber-bullying, pornography and internet addiction. Brain Defense arms kids with safe technology habits to protect their growing minds.

Porn Prevention equips parents in how they can guard their children’s eyes and protect their hearts. We have designed this course to address immediate needs as well as give practical tools for parents to create a culture in their homes for open dialogue. We have partnered with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill to teach critical skills for parenting in our hyper-sexualized culture. Dr. Hill is a marriage and family therapists as well as a sexologist. In addition to their expertise they are also parents who have successfully applied these principles in their own homes. The Hills along with the Zicks and Vallottons share keys to success from their combined 70+ years of parenting experience.

Translating pop culture to help parents and caring adults understand and disciple their teenagers. Each week, our team researches culture to help you stay up to date on the music, movies, TV shows, and social media trends impacting your kid’s world.

Internet Accountability monitors the websites visited, the search terms used, and the YouTube videos watched, and lists them in an easy-to-read Report that is designed to start a conversation about healthy online habits.

Parents, see where your kids go online. Adults, reduce Internet temptations and protect the relationships you value most.

Raised on Porn exposes the ways pornography has become the new sex education for children and unpacks the dangerous lifelong implications of this global phenomenon. Through riveting firsthand accounts, cinematic re-enactments, 3D animation, and interviews with the world’s leading neurologists, sociologists, psychologists, and therapists, Raised on Porn is filled to the brim with raw, compelling insight on how pornography is poisoning us and our relationships. This film shatters cultural myths about the “harmless” nature of pornography and provides a sobering framework to understand how this graphic genre of media has shaped our world, eliciting a desperately-needed call for change.

A great sex life isn’t just something you find, it’s something you make. But many Christian couples are feeling stuck in this very intimate and important area of their relationship, not sure where to turn for help or who to ask for advice. Other Christian couples have deeply enjoyable and passionate times of intimacy, but are always up for encouragement and advice as to how to keep making this wonderful part of marriage even better.

A colorful picture book that will warm the hearts of children and adults alike, each of its pages contain endearing examples and vibrant illustrations to inspire children to grow into grateful, caring, and giving people. It provides a wonderful way to calm children before sleep, ease their fears, and help them develop an appreciation for good work. Also included are activity pages to help children practice skills for creating gratitude, compassion, and beauty in daily life.

AGES 6+: Good Pictures, Bad Pictures is a comfortable, read-aloud story about a mom and dad who teach their child what pornography is, why it’s dangerous, and how to reject it. Using easy-to-understand science and simple analogies, this ground-breaking book engages young kids to porn-proof their own brains.

The 5-point CAN DO Plan teaches kids how to avoid the brain-warping images of pornography and minimize the troubling memories of accidental exposure that often tempt kids to look for more and lead them into a dark and destructive addiction. To stay safe in the digital age, kids must install an internal filter in their own brain. Good Pictures, Bad Pictures shows them how.

AGES 3-6: Young children deserve to be armed early against internet dangers. Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr. makes it easy for parents to protect their young kids ages 3 to 6. Using gentle, age-appropriate messages, children will learn to Turn, Run & Tell when they are accidentally exposed to inappropriate content.

Ages 3-5: Designed for ages 3-5, and using age-appropriate language and illustrations, this book explains to young children the marvelous body God gave them.

Ages 5-8: Before I Was Born explains in age-appropriate language the basic nature of sexual intercourse between a husband and wife and discusses conception, fetal development, childbirth, and breastfeeding.

• For children ages 5 to 8

Ages 8-12: Written for children ages 8-11, What’s the Big Deal? helps kids find answers to their questions about sex. It explains the basic facts about sex, why God made adults so they want to have sex, what God says about sex in the Bible, and how to respond when faced with sexual pressure from peers, TV, movies, and magazines.

Ages 12-16: The rest of the story – all the really interesting stuff you never knew about sex. More changes occur in your body and brain during puberty than any other time in your life. Puberty marks the beginning of big changes in your relationships with your parents and the opposite sex. It’s a wonderful and exhilarating time, because you’re finally becoming an adult, but it can be a stressful and overwhelming time, too. If you don’t understand what’s happening to you, or why, ages 11-14 can be downright scary. Facing the Facts was written to give you all the information you need to understand exactly what’s happening to your body during the years ahead-and why God planned it to happen just that way. You’ll learn about: 1) The role of puberty in the development of sexuality; 2) How girls’ and boys’ bodies change, both inside and out; 3) Exactly how a woman gets pregnant and gives birth; 4) Why God wants you to save sex for marriage; 5) Love and dating: How relationships mature; and 6) Tough answers to some tough problems. Your body and its sexual nature are beautiful and exciting gifts from God that He wants you to understand and appreciate. Reading Facing the Facts and talking about it with your parents will help you be ready fro the coming physical changes, equip you to handle the sexual pressures you’ll encounter throughout your life, and give you a better understanding of God’s perfect design for sex.

The Wonderful Way Babies Are Made will help you teach your children about families, babies, and sexual intimacy from a joyful Christian perspective. Uniquely set against the backdrop of God’s creation and our role in it, this book is an excellent place to begin presenting the information, feelings, and attitudes you would like to share with your children about the truly wonderful way babies›and families›are made.

God gave humankind the gift of sex. But many couples don’t experience that kind of joy and fulfillment that God intended. If you’ve ever been frustrated with a lack of intimacy in your marriage, or if you just want to know more about how you can get the most out of your relationship, this book is for you.

Helping kids set healthy boundaries for their private parts can be a daunting and awkward task for parents, counselors and educators. Written from a kid s point of view, I Said No! makes this task a lot easier.

To help Zack cope with a real-life experience he had with a friend, he and his mom wrote a book to help prepare other kids to deal with a range of problematic situations. I Said No! uses kid-friendly language and illustrations to help parents and concerned adults give kids guidance they can understand, practice and use.

Using a simple, direct, decidedly non-icky approach that doesn’t dumb down the issues involved, as well as an easy-to-use system to help kids rehearse and remember appropriate responses to help keep them safe,

I Said No! covers a variety of topics, including:

What s appropriate and with whom.
How to deal with inappropriate behavior, bribes and threats.When and where to go for help, and what to do if the people you re turning to for help don t listen.
Dealing with feelings of guilt and shame.

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Only very recently has our culture begun to realize and address the damaging effects of porn – how destructive it is to relationships and families, how it harms the brain, how it negatively impacts emotional well-being, and how it’s affected our society as a whole.

While it’s good that the level of awareness for this issue is increasing, those who struggle with porn are still left with trying to figure out how to get help in this difficult area.

That’s why Brendon Byrne wrote Take Back Your Life: Overcome Pornography While Building the Life You Want.

Brendon struggled with an addiction to porn for 12 years of his life and experienced many of its damaging effects first-hand, especially in his marriage. This led him to make an unwavering decision to begin the journey of finally get free from pornography.

With disarming transparency and vulnerability, Take Back Your Life will give you an in-depth look into Brendon’s journey of overcoming porn addiction where you will gain truths, insights and practical steps on how to step out of a lifestyle of porn and into a life full of adventure, freedom and purpose.

Parents often imagine their kids to be nonsexual until their wedding night. The truth of the matter is that we’re sexual from day one. What are you going to communicate to your kids about this, knowing that they are sexual creatures today? Inside this book are the tools you need to help your kids not only understand their growing bodies, but also cope with the temptations and social pressures that go with them.

Children were designed with the core need of freedom. To deny this or live ignorant of it eventually destroys the trust connection between parent and child. This nook introduces paradigms, perceptions, skills, and ideas that help parents reduce fear by eliminating the tool of punishment and strengthening the hearts of their children to fulfill their destiny.

It stinks, doesn’t it. But what can you do to fix it? More than you’ve ever imagined. You can put an end to the datelessness. Starting today—right now—you can begin a journey that will bring fun and interesting people into your life, broaden your experience of others and yourself, and lead you toward that date of all dates—a date worth keeping. This book is for YOU if · You want to get more dates or better dates. · You wonder where “the good ones” are. · You keep repeating the same old cycle in your dating life and want to change it. · You wonder why people who aren’t as nice as you get all the dates. · You’re attracted to the wrong kind, while the right kind lack the “chemistry.” · You’re waiting for God to bring you the right person—and you’ve been waiting an awfully long time. · You wonder what it is about you that fails to attract dates. With over ten years of experience personally coaching singles on dating, Dr. Henry Cloud shares his proven, very doable, step-by-step approach to overcoming your sticking points and getting all the dates you could want. The results speak for themselves. Filled with true-life examples you’ll identify with instantly, How to Get a Date Worth Keeping will prove its worth to you many times over in the exciting months ahead.

Articulating The Message of Freedom... In an era when Biblical manhood and womanhood is being questioned and sexuality redefined, God is raising a standard to restore our generation. Therefore if anyone is in Christ, they are a new creation: old things are passed away; behold, all things are made new.

CHANGED is a compilation of inspirational stories of men and women who have come out of homosexuality. Read their experiences of transformation through the love of Jesus.

Inside, find insight into the real pain of homosexuality as well as the hope and freedom that lies beyond it. By popular demand, we are reprinting CHANGED with 15+ stories added.

Rules for Romance That Can Help You Find the Love of Your Life Between singleness and marriage lies the journey of dating. Want to make your road as smooth as possible? Set and maintain healthy boundaries — boundaries that will help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control. If many of your dating experiences have been difficult, Boundaries in Dating could revolutionize the way you handle relationships. And even if you’re doing well, the insights you’ll gain from this much-needed audiobook can help you fine-tune or even completely readjust important areas of your dating life. Written by the authors of the bestselling book Boundaries, Boundaries in Dating is your road map to the kind of enjoyable, rewarding dating that can take you from weekends alone to a lifetime with the soul mate you’ve longed for. “Boundaries in Dating is the most helpful dating resource we have read in years. It is sure to become a classic. If you are looking for practical tools for finding the love of your life, you can’t afford to miss this outstanding book.” — Les and Leslie Parrott, Authors of Relationships and Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts “Boundaries in Dating will help you avoid the pitfalls of dating poorly and learn the secrets of dating well. Dating with good boundaries is a surefire way to find that relationship that lasts for the rest of your life.” — Gary Smalley, Author of Making Love Last Forever

Sex. In a world overwhelmingly obsessed with it, why is the church so silent about it? While our secular culture twists, perverts, cheapens, and idolizes sex, there are gaping holes in the church's guidance of young people. The result is generations of sexually illiterate people drowning in the repercussions of overwhelming sin struggles.

From elementary school on, I never fit in with the boys. I lived every day in a fantasy world of codependent fixation on other males. Hopelessness and self-hatred were my normal. I had no sexual desires for females; only for males. And by age 17, I was suicidal from the inner turmoil. Bouts of porn and compulsive masturbation were my medication of choice, and I was powerless to resist them. And, after years of desperate prayer & Christian psychotherapy, I had experienced zero change in my sexual desires…until I discovered some kingdom realities and my life in Christ became deeply experiential. Jesus died for our sexual wholeness and freedom. This is the story of how I got free.

Is a non-profit christian website that aims to help those who struggle with pornography. It targets porn industry performers and consumers. The organization describes itself as a "Christian porn site designed to bring awareness, openness and accountability to those affected by pornography."

SEX. LOVE. VIRGINITY? In the dating game, the V-word has become as strange and complicated as the L-word, with purity as outdated as pay phones. What is an ex-athiest, post-porn addict, unorthodox Christian girl to do these days? How can she create boundaries without scaring off every available guy? Is purity even possible without being puritanical? In this candid, humorous account of the true-life trials of Christian dating, the author shares the wisdom she's gleaned in her quest for love in a modern world. She guides with grace and honesty through the often hush-hush topics of sex, porn, shame, female competition, misconceptions about purity, and those dreaded "waiting till marriage" conversations.Meet Carrie Lloyd.

According to researchers, the vast majority--a whopping 75-98 percent--of the illnesses that plague us today are a direct result of our thought life. What we think about truly affects us both physically and emotionally. In fact, fear alone triggers more than 1,400 known physical and chemical responses in our bodies, activating more than thirty different hormones! Today our culture is undergoing an epidemic of toxic thoughts that, left unchecked, create ideal conditions for illnesses.

Supported by current scientific and medical research, Dr. Caroline Leaf gives readers a prescription for better health and wholeness through correct thinking patterns, declaring that we are not victims of our biology. She shares with readers the "switch" in our brains that enables us to live happier, healthier, more enjoyable lives where we achieve our goals, maintain our weight, and even become more intelligent. She shows us how to choose life, get our minds under control, and reap the benefits of a detoxed thought life.

Sex is powerful! Just saying the word “sex” can stir up all kinds of emotions inside people. Maybe it’s a positive emotion for you, or a hurtful, shameful, confusing one. It’s no wonder we humans struggle to understand its meaning and purpose. It can be difficult to talk about and even worse if we have experienced unwanted shame or grew up in a home where sex was a taboo topic.

Late-night texts. Mixed signals. Dead-end relationships.
This doesn’t have to be your love life.

Welcome to dating in the digital world―where phone conversations followed by dinner and a movie have been replaced by last-minute texts, ambiguous relationships, and vague group hangouts.

While technology makes it faster and easier to connect than ever before, it has also created confusion . . . And heartbreak.

Ruthie and Michael Dean have heard the same story from thousands of women: the disappearing men, the cryptic messages, the disappointing relationships, and the false intimacy of on-screen connection.

In a no-holds-barred narrative style, the husband-and-wife team chronicles their dating mishaps, hilarious attempts to find love, and many mistakes―helping women understand just what men are thinking and how to attract Mr. Right.

Real Men Don’t Text offers game-changing perspectives, bringing a fresh approach to love, sex, and dating. You don’t need to spend one more night staring at a phone screen. It’s time to take back your love life!

”Boy Meets Girl” takes an honest and straightforward look at dating relationships and the challenges they bring. Beginning with our Creator, this series approaches guy-girl relationships from His perspective, helping lay the ground work for meaningful relationships now and a marriage that will last. Digging below the surface, ”Boy Meets Girl” uncovers potential dangers and offers practical help for anyone seeking a long term relationship that is all God intended it to be.

Your heart matters more than anything else in all creation. The desires you had as a little girl and the longings you still feel as a woman – they are telling you of the life God created you to live. He offers to come now as the Hero of your story, to rescue your heart and release you to live as a fully alive and feminine woman.

Christian couples come to a point where they must “Define their Relationship.” This awkward but pivotal conversation either pushes them apart or allows their relationship to develop into something greater. This course will help couples examine the exciting yet unknown path they will travel together and help them carefully consider the strength of their relationship.

What makes your woman tick? What is she really asking (but not actually saying)? Take the guesswork out of trying to please your wife or girlfriend and begin loving her in the way she needs. Easily. For Men Only is a straightforward map that will lead you straight into her heart.

The author’s research reveals the inner lives of men that will open women’s eyes to what these men in their life are really thinking and feeling. Men want to be understood, but they’re afraid to “freak out” the women they love by confessing what is happening inside their heads. This book will guide women in how to provide the loving support that modern men want and need.

When you buy something electronic, it always includes a user’s guide. Sometimes you read; sometimes you don’t. This book is a user’s guide for teen guys as they learn how to relate to girls. It covers almost everything you need to know in a way that’s easy to follow.

This teaching will equip you to be victorious in the combat zone of your own sex drive, overcome the power of peer pressure and confront distorted cultural values.

In this powerful teaching, Kris Vallotton answers these age-old questions: Why do I have a sex drive years before God wants me to have sex in marriage? Why should I wait to have sex? What do I do if I have already lost my virginity? This message will help you navigate the minefield of your sexuality and establish a solid foundation for your marriage.

Many couples put more planning into the wedding ceremony than they do for what comes after the wedding. Intelligent, deliberate preparation for a lifetime of sexual leisure is a worthy investment you won’t regret.

Breakthroughs in the field of neuroscience explain the impact having sex has on the developing brains of adolescents and young adults. This book contains the facts needed to help steer young people away from making life-changing mistakes and lead them toward reaching their full potential.

Do you often leave dates wondering what in the world just happened? Everything leading up to the date seemed so perfect, but something just went horribly awry. Or maybe the date itself was good but something was missing. Have you ever looked back on your really bad dates to figure out what exactly went wrong, at what point it collapsed and why?

We’ve all had bad dates. We may have even caused them. Some have even stretched into undesirable relationships. Relationships are hard, hard to figure out and even harder to find. Uncover the value of who you truly are and the potential that God has purposed for your life.

Bad dates don’t have to be a way of life. Let God change you, and let Him lead you to healthy relationships that last.

There is a crisis today among Christian men in the area of sexual sin. Wives, girlfriends, and mothers know this and want to help – they just don’t know how. Mary Farrar illuminates to women men’s innermost feelings, exposes the dichotomy in male/female communication, and shows that women can play an active role in this ongoing battle. There’s also advice for single women who want to relate to single men, and mothers of boys will find a strong chapter about the role they play in the healthy sexual development of their sons. With up-to-date psychological research, Reading Your Male is an indispensable resource, equipping a woman to fight wisely and effectively alongside her man in the ongoing struggle against sexual sin.

Want satisfying sex? All it takes is practice … and the right attitude! This book will expand and challenge your thinking, help you start your marriage off right, or go from humdrum to exciting if you’re already married.

If you want to give and receive love most effectively, you’ve got to learn to speak the right love language. Different people with different personalities express love in different ways. Step inside this book to learn about the five specific languages of love.

What speaks volumes to you may be meaningless to your spouse. But here, at last, is the key to understanding each others unique needs. Apply the right principles, learn the right language, and soon you’ll know the profound satisfaction and joy of being able to express your love – and feeling truly loved in return.

Clifford and Joyce Penner, clinical therapist and nurse have written a sensitive and forthright guide to understanding sexuality and how it fits into God’s design for marriage. With the latest information on sexuality and intimacy, this best-selling book is ideal whether you are newlyweds or have been married for many years.

“Are you who the person you are looking for is looking for?” – Andy Stanley

Single? Looking for the “right person?” Thinking that if you met the “right person” everything would turn out “right?” Think again. In The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating, Andy Stanley explores the challenges, assumptions, and land mines associated with dating in the twenty-first century. Best of all, he offers the most practical and uncensored advice you will ever hear on this topic. Not for the faint of heart, The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating challenges single Christ followers to step up and set a new standard for this generation! “If you don’t want a marriage like the majority of marriages,” says Stanley, “then stop dating like the majority of daters!”

In our pornified culture, pornography disrupts how men interact with women. Countless Christian men struggle with the addictive power of porn. And often our prayer and accountability groups are of limited help. By better understanding the biological realities of our sexual development, we can cultivate healthier sexual perspectives and interpersonal relationships. This book offers hope for freedom and transformation.

In this message, Jason will take you through lessons from his personal journey of Working Through Pain. He releases truths regarding mourning and how to look at pain productively, as opposed to living in a prison of denial. Jason unpacks powerful ways to identify and process through your pain, thus uprooting the lies that have kept you from walking in wholeness.

This is a new edition of a classic book for women and men whose spouses or partners have had multiple affairs or sex addiction problems. Dr. Schneider explains how Twelve Step recovery programs can work for you, and provides straightforward guidance on how to find self-help groups and how to choose a therapist.

In this insightful and extremely helpful book, you will learn about a simple concept that can change your life: healthy boundaries. It’s the ability to mark off your life in such a way that you multiply your love for others and minimize the problems you face. This book comes highly recommended.

Through the healing steps in this Bible study you will be able to: receive and experience God’s forgiveness as well as forgive others and yourself, repair the wounds that you’ve been scarred with by past relationships, reverse the lies you’ve ingrained about sex and yourself with God’s truth, grieve what you’ve lost because of your past, and break the ungodly soul ties you’ve forged outside marriage, enabling you to to rebound in a present or future marriage.

The world is awash in sex. We are bombarded with it everywhere we turn. When this ever-present temptation mixes with human weaknesses and unmet needs, many get pulled into addiction to sexually sinful behavior. This book spells out the essentials in practical steps that can help people begin to break free.

The question of how the church deals with homosexuality has become the great moral and spiritual issue of this generation. How do we respond to gay people who tell us how much they love the Lord and experience God’s power? How do we answer them when they say that the greatest law is the law of love, and that love requires us to embrace them as they are? What do we do with the argument that the Old Testament laws (such as the prohibition against homosexuality and the dietary laws) no longer apply? Gay and Christian? will provide solid biblical answers, clearly written and based on sound scholarship, in a compassionate way that causes the reader to wrestle with the issues and discover the biblical truth. The book also provides practical guidelines for ministry and shows readers how they can resist the gay agenda while reaching out to their gay friends and family.

“The quality of your life comes out of the quality of your dialogues and conversations. Here’s how to instantly uplift your crucial conversations.” Tools to learn: prepare for high-stakes situations, transform anger and hurt feelings into powerful dialogue, make it safe to talk about almost anything, be persuasive, not abrasive.

In this powerful, revelation-packed book, Danny Silk describes the significant paradigm shift in church life, government, and relationships that has created and sustained the revival culture at Bethel Church in Redding, California. Through many relevant and true-life stories, the church is revealed as a place of freedom, respect, empowerment, and healthy discipline (not punishment). Culture of Honor challenges the status quo of church leadership structure and presents a refreshing view of the five-fold ministry. Jesus acknowledged this important principle in Matthew 20:25-26:

With honest humor and raw self-revelation, bestselling author Donald Miller tells the story of growing up without a father and openly talks about the issues that befall the fatherless generation. Raw and candid, Miller moves from self-pity and brokenness to hope and strength, highlighting a path for millions who are floundering in an age without positive male role models. Speaking to both men and women who grew up without a father—whether that father was physically absent or just emotionally aloof—this story of longing and ultimate hope will be a source of strength. Single moms and those whose spouses grew up in fatherless homes will find new understanding of those they love as they travel along this literary journey.
This is a story of hope and promise. And if you let it, Donald Miller’s journey will be an informal guide to pulling the rotted beams out from our foundations and replacing them with something upon which we can build our lives.

Fight the New Drug exists to provide individuals the opportunity to make an informed decision regarding pornography by raising awareness on its harmful effects using only science, facts, and personal accounts.

With today’s rampant availability of Internet pornography, sexual addiction has become a national epidemic that affects up to 10 percent of Christians. As devastating as any drug habit, it brings heartbreak and despair to those it entangles. But there is help for men and women caught in sexual addiction’s downward spiral.Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction

For Parents: This book will help you establish a biblical view of sexuality for your kids. Learn how and when to talk with your children about sexual curiosity, physical changes of puberty, dating, chastity, and more.

Keeping your love on. It’s a hard thing to do. Sometimes it’s the hardest thing to do. But if you want to build healthy relationships with God and others, learning to keep your love on is non–negotiable

When it comes to seeking advice about relationships, marriage, and sex, we tend to look in all the wrong places. Everywhere we turn, we’re promised pleasure and happiness, but we’re left feeling hurt and empty. The world claims to have the answers, but maybe we’ve been asking the wrong questions all along. In our series Meant to Be, we’ll have open conversations and uncover the Bible’s best kept secrets about sex, marriage, and being single.

If you’ve ever wondered if there’s more to intimacy than you and your spouse are experiencing, you’ve taken the first step toward finding it. Accept the challenge of affirming and following your wife’s needs and desires. The authors reveal what every man must know about a woman – and what every woman wishes her spouse knew as well!

When your partner betrays, how can you pick up the pieces of your shattered heart? What do you do when you wake up one day to discover that your loved one has been living a life of lies and deceit because they suffer from a disease called sex addiction? Consider this your go-to-guide on what to do if you discover your partner is a sex addict.

Nothing Hidden Ministries is the home of Love After Marriage, Single Life Workshop and Spirit Connection. Through these ministries, we develop resources, tools and events that will help to equip people to have deeper connection in relationships and with God. These resources include books, manuals, workbooks, courses, teachings, and live workshop events.

Sex is at the core of our identities. And when it becomes a compulsion, it can unravel our lives. With practical wisdom and spiritual clarity, it points the way out of the shadows of sexual compulsion and back into the light and fullness of life.

Blogs, podcasts, and prayers abound on this site.  Check it out!

Restored Hope is an inter-denominational membership governed network dedicated to restoring hope to those broken by sexual and relational sin, especially those impacted by homosexuality. We proclaim that Jesus Christ has life-changing power for all who submit to Christ as Lord; we also seek to equip His church to impart that transformation.

The pain endured from sexual betrayal can break your heart, but it does not need to break your life. Whether an isolated incident or a long-term pattern of addiction – you need to know you don’t have to live as a victim. Learn how to make wise and empowering decisions with the help of this book.

It may be hard to see emotional wounds as redeemable when they still hurt so deeply, this book will help you discover that God can not only heal your wounds, but He can also use the healing process to equip you for a whole, fulfilled and powerful life.

“The greatest enemy of sexual wholeness today,” asserts Mark Laaser, Ph.D., “is silence.” A therapist specializing in the field of sexual health, Dr. Laaser has worked with hundreds of adults who suffer the consequences of sexual sin and dysfunction. All of them long to have had meaningful conversations with their parents about sex when they were growing up. Most parents would agree that healthy sexuality should be taught at home rather than left to their children’s teachers, peers, or culture. However, even parents with the best intentions can feel at a loss regarding where to start.

You’re trapped. You don’t know how you ended up in such a sinful mess. You’re a Christian and this sort of thing doesn’t happen to Christians … or so you’ve been told. Don’t wait any longer to discover that your most important defense against a life of bondage is recognizing the enemy and knowing how to defeat him.

The Bible is well-known for its wisdom on spiritual concerns and righteous living. But did you know it can also guide you in matters of dating, courtship, and marriage? Wise and engaging, The Book of Romance digs deep into the Song of Solomon and what it says about the Bible’s most passionate lovers. As you learn about their relationship, you’ll discover how you, too, can experience the deep emotional, sexual, and spiritual satisfaction that God created to be enjoyed in marriage.

Barbara Wilson, the author, combines scientific research with scripture to offer striking new insights about what sexual bonding is, why it is harmful and how to move freely into your future. It comes with a study guide and is a hands-on tool for changing not your past … but your life.

An insightful, inspirational, amusing and honest guide to relationships for the modern single Christian woman. How does the single Christian woman maintain her relationships while staying true to herself? How can she thrive in a predominately secular culture and keep her faith in a world that doesn’t reflect her values? The Virgin Monologues teaches how to do healthy relationships, what to fight for and what to give up on. It gives healthy principles to understand before looking for a team mate. Endorsements: “It may be that this does not paint the whole picture of your single life, but guaranteed there will be plenty of shared experience, hurts, accidents and adventures within these pages. With refreshing honesty, courage and humour Carrie publicly has the conversation so many of us have had in private.

A book for Christian husbands and wives that blends the physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and relational aspects of marriage with the sexual. Much more than a ‘how to’ book on better sex, this practical, detailed resource offers a vision of lovemaking that facilitates a deeper experience of intimacy on all planes of marriage.

Healing Post-Abortion Trauma

By skillfully combining experience and expertise, this book finally shatters the stigma and shame that millions of women and some men bear when their partners are sexually addicted. The authors provide significant insights, important strategies and critical steps to recognizing, dealing with and achieving healing when your loved one is addicted.

CHANGED (#oncegay) is a community of friends who once identified as LGBTQ+. Today, we celebrate the love of Jesus and His freedom in our lives.

Having battled homosexuality and its corresponding rejection, self-hatred, and hopelessness for many years, Ken eventually stumbled into a great big God who cared about his pain and offered radical transformation to his identity and sexuality. This teaching is an anointed articulation of how you can proactively partner with God’s plan to lead you into freedom from sexual sin and solidarity in your identity as the man or woman of God that he created you to be. Ken identifies the 6 important keys that God used to heal his sexuality and to help him manifest his own masculinity. Those who battle shame, addiction to porn and masturbation, codependency, and an unyielding belief that homosexuality is their identity have found this teaching to be transformational. It was for freedom that Christ set you free! All things are possible in Him.

Journey with Elizabeth Woning as she reflects upon God’s unusual pursuit of her heart while a lesbian struggling with bipolar disorder. After an unsuspecting 17-year-old boy approached her with a prophetic word, Elizabeth began re-reading scripture to explore God’s character. The unexpected outcome of her study and the resulting healing and transformation it produced, reveals God’s passion to see wholeness in all of our lives in the face of life-dominating issues.

CHANGED is a community of friends who once identified as LGBTQ+. Today, we celebrate the love of Jesus and His freedom in our lives. This shirt proudly states the truth of our freedom.

Our mission is to end slavery. We are a nonprofit organization fueled by radical hope that human beings everywhere will be rescued from bondage and completely restored. We are the abolitionists of the 21st century. We work with you to free slaves and disrupt the demand.

Exodus Cry is committed to abolishing sex trafficking and breaking the cycle of commercial sexual exploitation while assisting and empowering its victims. Our international work involves uprooting the underlying causes in our culture that allow the industry of sexual exploitation to thrive and helping those who have been sexually exploited.

When Rebecca Bender escaped a life of sex trafficking in 2007, her life goal was to sleep through the night without a nightmare. Little did she know that her world was about to change others. Now, less than a decade later, she has become a worldwide leader in the anti-trafficking movement. Talk about nightmares becoming dreams.

In this modern age, there are innumerable challenges facing Christian women concerning their sexuality. Discover Eden: Empowering Christian Women to Walk in Sexual Liberty offers practical advice, Biblical perspective, useful knowledge, and hope to single and married women of all ages.

How do we respond to sexual brokenness in Truth and Love? How is homosexuality different than other struggles? Is simply having Same Sex attraction sinful? How do we as the Church walk alongside those with sexual identity struggles? Is the answer always a hard “NO” if I am invited to a Gay Wedding? Drew surrendered his broken sexuality to the Lordship of Christ in 1996, leaving behind a homosexual relationship. He chose to trust Christ with his future, believing that the Word of God was trustworthy, and that Christ would be faithful to give him a life worth living outside of a homosexual identity or relationship. This surrender began a process of transformation and healing confronting the issues of same sex attraction and overall relational dysfunction in his life. Drew takes the lessons he has learned in his own journey of transformation, as well as two decades of experience walking alongside those who struggle with their sexuality, and those in the LGBTQ community, to address these questions with pastoral insight, spiritual depth, humor, and practical wisdom.

For Such a Time is a personal memoir from Jeffrey McCall. In this memoir, Jeffrey discusses his involvement with homosexuality, illegal drugs, alcohol, prescription pills, partying, and his transgendered life as Scarlet. In this book, he is transparent about his personal experiences, including family issues, suicides, personal relationships, his education, his time at a mental institution, supernatural experiences with God, and his journey to find hope and love throughout it all!

Freedom U is an organization dedicated to help you achieve freedom from unwanted sexual behavior, by helping you cultivate wellness in every sphere of your life. We believe that relational intimacy, meaningful spiritual connection, and behavioral change is the goal of sexual freedom and wholeness. Our Freedom eCourse has been developed through personal experience and clinical expertise.  All of our Freedom Coaches are certified sexual addiction recovery professionals. We understand the difficulty of working through the many consequences and challenges that you may be facing in your journey of recovery, so let us help you start living a life of freedom and wellbeing today.

Any married person will tell you: there's a huge difference between the expectations of marriage, and the reality of what marriage is actually like. For so many couples the struggle is real as the "reality check" of marriage begins to unfold with each passing year. But while marriage may be hard, a healthy marriage doesn't stop there. Because by learning to journey through the hard things, you get the opportunity to experience the great things on the other side. With a candid yet compassionate approach, licensed counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta, walks you through eight significant choices involved in taking marriage from hard to great. Throughout each chapter, Debra shares astonishing survey results from thousands of singles and married couples, revealing intimate details about things like love, sex, conflict, communication, and attraction. From her experience as a professional counselor and wife, Debra believes that a beautiful exchange occurs when spouses learn what it means to choose we before me.

The Father Series is a transformational audio e-course with 12+ hours of content designed to help you get healing from your past and empower you to step into a great future. This course is not just for people who have pain with their father. It’s for anyone who wants to be more connected to themselves, the people around them, and Father God. If you are ready to experience love and break the negative cycles in your life, The Father Series will lead you on that journey.

Sessions Include:

1. The Importance of Dialoguing About Fathers
2. The Attributes of a Healthy Father
3. The Effects of Fathers on Their Daughters
4. The Effects of Fathers on Their Sons
5. Finding Wholeness After Being Hurt: Special Guest Paul Young
6. Confronting our Fathers: Hope for Healing and Connection
7. Laying to Rest Our Father Wounds
8. Stories of Good Fathers
9. Bonus Episode: Returning To Childlikeness
10. Father God
11. Compassion for Father’s
12. Moving Forward: Steps to Forgiveness

Look at You, Girl is a book for girls and women of all ages. It is a kickstart to seeing yourself the way God does a bit more clearer.

Girls, we invest so much in our looks, but do we ever slow down and look inside? Can you imagine if we started investing in our souls? Take a week to shift your focus from what you see on the outside, to look at how He made you inside and out. Our life’s purpose is far greater than how we will fit into that dress, what mascara we use or what we’ll look like in a bikini. Grab your girls and start this one-week journey together, it’s time to start seeing yourself through a fresh set of lens and gain a clear perspective of who you were made to be.

How can you talk to young children about gender or their "gender identity"? I DON'T HAVE TO CHOOSE helps children internalize who they are, including as a boy or a girl, in a way that is simple, affirming, and free of stereotypes.
Psychologist: "This book is a useful and engaging resource for the conversations parents and children need to have in their homes before they get to school."
Educator: "The humor and warm-hearted wisdom in this fun-to-read book for kids (and their moms and dads) deals with an issue of great import in these times."
Rabbi: "This book takes the self-esteem and self-identity issues and steers them back into normative reality. This is just a fun book to read to your kids!"

In the Garden, woman was taken out of man to stand by his side and co-reign with him. But Satan's schemes have robbed women and men of their rightful identities, marring and disempowering them. The world aches for God's original partnership to be brought into balance once more--and it can be.

Join Kris Vallotton for an extraordinary journey of eye-opening insight, including
· God's true plan and purpose for women
· Jesus' radical teachings and care for women
· Men's important role in restoring women
· The true interpretation of difficult Bible passages about women
· Examples of women in leadership as God intended

God fashioned women to reign alongside men. Jesus set us free to be our true selves. It's time for all of us, as daughters and sons of the King, to rule together.

High school freshman Tracy McKenzie thinks her biggest dilemma is figuring out if Charlie is still her best friend—until her little brother comes home and says Jason, a boy in his second-grade class, is now Jessica. Wait—you can choose your gender? What does it mean to transition? Is that even possible? And what’s going on with the M’s? What’s the deal with SOGI anyway, and is it catching?

Like I DON’T HAVE TO CHOOSE, this new book for tweens and teens (and adults) focuses on gender, but CHOOSING delves into transgender issues. Both of these books adhere to a Biblical and scientific perspective.

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter.

Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die.

Whether you're single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Recognizing the patterns of each season and understanding how to navigate each one with intention is vital to the health of your relationship. No matter what your relationship status, get ready to learn everything you need to know about how to strengthen your love in every season.

It is possible to find true love through dating.

In True Love Dates, Debra Fileta encourages singles not to "kiss dating goodbye" but instead to experience a season of dating as a way to find real love. Through powerful, real-life stories and Fileta's personal journey, this book offers profound insights from the expertise of a professional counselor.

Christians are looking for answers to finding true love. They are disillusioned with the church that has provided little practical application in the area of love and relationships. They're bombarded by Christian books that shun dating, idolize courting, fixate on spirituality, and in the end, offer little real relationship help.

True Love Dates provides honest help for dating by providing a guide into vital relationship essentials. Debra is a professional Christian counselor who reaches millions with her popular blog, Truelovedates.com, and her book offers sound advice grounded in Christian spirituality. She delivers insight, direction, and counsel when it comes to entering the world of dating and learning to do it right the first time around. Drawing on the stories and struggles of hundreds of young men and women who have pursued the search for true love, Fileta helps readers bypass unnecessary pain while focusing on the things that really matter in the world of dating.

For ages 5–8 (K–2nd grade)Susie is surprised when her friend Amy cuts her hair short and dresses like a boy because she thinks boys are braver, smarter, and stronger than girls. Susie feels sad. Can’t girls be brave, smart, and strong too? With her parents’ guidance, Susie learns to be glad that she’s a girl. In I’m Glad God Made Me a Girl, young girls discover God’s design and purpose for them. The story also touches on the reasons some girls believe becoming a boy makes sense for them. This resource shows girls that they are fearfully and wonderfully made by God and that as females, they are beautiful, kind, brave, smart, and strong. This book is a valuable tool for parents, pastors, and counselors who seek to demonstrate love and compassion as they minister to children who struggle with gender confusion.

This book is a "must have" for anyone with children in their lives! Let's put an end to childhood abuse!

This is not a course to beat you up, tell you to double down on your efforts, and just get your act together. The Porn Free course will lovingly take you by the hand, meet you where you are, and lead you with both grace and truth into freedom from pornography.

You can keep trying to beat this thing alone—but how far has that gotten you? If you are still reading this, my guess is it's because, deep down, you are looking for hope. My prayer is that you've finally found it.

Finding Truth in a Universe of Opinions

What is truth?

This has become the defining question of our time. But while everyone has an opinion, truth, it seems, is getting harder and harder to find. Perhaps that’s because we are searching for something when we should be looking for someone.

Truth has a name.

More ancient than time and more present than this moment, truth is not a river that changes with the cultural currents, but a rock—immovable, invincible, unshakeable—and the cornerstone of all we are and ever dream to be.

Theologically deep yet intimately accessible. Adamant will be an anchor for your soul in a raging sea of opinions, giving you a clear sense of direction in a wandering world.

ONCE UPON A TIME…

Marriage was forever. It was a covenant that knit one man and one woman together. This weaving made both stronger, nobler, and more vibrant expressions of who they were created to be. They were better together than either had been on their own.

The wedding ceremony was but a beginning. It was the gateway to build their happily ever after. Each choice and action was designed to construct the life their union represented. Husband and wife walked into the great unknown with hearts, hands, and voices intertwined to express the love of their Creator.

How did we lose touch with this profound love story? In The Story of Marriage, John and Lisa Bevere invite you to rediscover God’s original plan. Whether you’re married, single, or engaged, your story is a part of His.

Interactive book includes:

• Daily devotionals
• Questions for group discussion
• Tools for mapping your dream marriage
• Steps for writing your story well

The pain and isolation of gender-confusion and same-sex attraction are immense. But there are many who have found redemption and wholeness through Christ! We want to make sure you have access to some of the best encouragement that’s out there, so we have partnered with seasoned Christian leaders who have personal experience of leaving LGBTQ behind to bring you a new video series called THRIVE! These amazing leaders share with you their stories, offer practical wisdom, and point you to more resources and encouragement. We hope you enjoy this wonderful series.

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