Guarding their eyes and protecting their hearts
Never before in history has sexually explicit content been so readily available that children are watching sexual acts before their 12th birthday. Currently, the average age a child finds porn is between eight and eleven years old. To add additional trauma to this experience, as much as 88% of pornography depicts violent sexual experiences. The large majority of these children find it by accident. This means that as parents we can engage with our kids to prevent this from happening and help our children who’ve already been exposed. The purpose of, “Porn Prevention” is to equip parents in how they can guard their children’s eyes and protect their hearts. We have designed this course to address immediate needs as well as give practical tools for parents to create a culture in their homes for open dialogue. We have partnered with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill to teach critical skills for parenting in our hyper-sexualized culture. Dr. Hill is a marriage and family therapists as well as a sexologist. In addition to their expertise they are also parents who have successfully applied these principles in their own homes. The Hills along with the Zicks and Vallottons share keys to success from their combined 70+ years of parenting experience. We are honored to be able to offer this course for free and trust it will provide great solutions to your current season of life.
STEP 1
breathe & connect
Cole Zick
It's time to start creating safe environments in our home where parents and children can have healthy conversations about sexuality. Whether you're a parent who has a newborn or a 7 year old who has recently discovered porn or even a child in high school who may have an addiction, you are allowed to take a breath and tell yourself it will be okay. Cole Zick, co-director of Moral Revolution, will teach you some great tips on how to address both urgent and long term needs while maintaining connection over correction.
STEP 2
CREATING CULTURE THROUGH GIVING IDENTITY
Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill
Did you know that the most fundamental human need is to know our identity? We as parents play an essential role in defining our children's identities and a part of that is creating a safe environment for our children to feel seen and heard. In this age where 'time is money', it can feel almost unproductive to sit and listen to our children's stories and questions, but we need to slow down and give them our time. There will come a moment where awkward topics will come up and they'll see and hear things they don't understand and the safest place for them to get answers is at home. If our kids have experienced a non presence at home, then they won't turn to us and will seek answers elsewhere. Let's rebuild that bridge by being present and making it clear that they'll be heard. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill are here to guide us through some practical steps of how to stay connected to our kids.
Learn more about the Connection Codes here.
Who is Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill?
Dr Glenn Hill is a marriage and family therapist, clinical sexologist, Connection Codes coach and author with a private practice in Nashville, TN. His greatest credential is his 38 year marriage with Phyllis. He enjoys doing absolutely anything with her, especially traveling and spending time with their family of twenty.Phyllis Hill is an entrepreneur, Connection Codes coach and the engine that keeps everything running. She enjoys the partnership and adventures she and Glenn share and loves being “Honey” to their ten grandchildren.The pain of their early married years along with decades of research and experience led the Hills to the founding of The Connection Codes. They provide counseling to couples, families, individuals, churches and businesses in helping people build deep connection. They have witnessed the Connection Codes help heal and enrich countless lives and relationships. It is the Hills’ mission to take the Connection Codes to every corner of the globe.
Step 3
CONNECTION THROUGH EMOTION
Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill
Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill are back to show us another great way to connect to our kids which is through emotion. It's important that we as parents understand the emotion in ourselves so that we can understand it in our children. Emotions serve to guide and protect us and will give us information which will dictate our behavior. We usually feel before we think so some of their 'bad' behavior could essentially be some unprocessed emotion they are experiencing. Our role as parents is to create a safe environment where they can process these emotions and then find out what's causing them instead of just trying to manage symptoms.
Learn more about the Connection Codes here.
Step 4
questions & Answers
Cait & Cole Zick and Jason & Lauren Vallotton
You don't have to have all the answers. It's okay to be awkward. It's okay to not know what to do. Just pause, breathe and let the Zick's and the Vallotton's answer some frequently asked questions by parents just like you. Their advice will show you that you're not alone.
BONUS
If your child has discovered porn…
Cole Zick
Have you recently discovered that your child has looked at pornography? First off, you're on the right track by seeking out information and help. Second, we have to understand that our children now have more asked of them than ever before which brings about an excess of pain and stress at times. Porn is not often about sex, it’s about what’s going on inside of them and is used as an unhealthy coping mechanism to this stress. Cole Zick, co-director of Moral Revolution, has some excellent advice on how to create healthy ways to process emotions, pain, and triggers with your children to help prevent the path back to pornography.
YOUR NEXT STEPS
we have communities built for your success
Whether you feel like an expert or you feel like you’re drowning, we’ve created some incredible resources for parents just like you with guides who have years of experience. We’d like to invite you to explore our two favorite resources below.
The Moral Revolution team has gathered professionals and experts in the field of sexuality and child development and built a guided online program for just this topic. Parent Well consists of 10 core teachings, ongoing hot topic/situation specific videos, an online community and more. Our kids are growing up at a time in history when culture is inundated with messages about sexuality that are neither true nor healthy. Parenting isn't an easy job on the best day, but with a moral crisis outside our front door, parenting our children in their sexuality can feel overwhelming at best. We want to equip parents with truth and tools that will help you develop a plan to win the hearts of your children, establish cultures of trust and safety, teach them about sexuality with confidence and respond well to the challenges they may face along the way.
Join Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill and their daughter Echo Vetter as they present Connection Codes for Parenting! This course is 4 sessions that are a deep dive on identity, emotions, cycles, and relationship science and co-regulation as touched on in sessions 2 and 3 of porn prevention. Through science and personal stories they will cover topics like: tantrums, sibling rivalry, bedtime battles, parental burnout, calming rituals, how to connect with your teen, depression and anxiety, breaking generational curses, raising emotionally intelligent children.