Category Marriage

What's In Your Yard - relationships

What’s In Your Yard?

For a while I thought being a good follower of Jesus meant saying yes to everyone. I thought I was supposed to  help out every time someone asked and take every opportunity to serve. Isn’t this what Jesus meant when…

How to Not Treat Your Boyfriend Like a Husband - treat boyfriend like husband

How to Not Treat Your Boyfriend Like a Husband

(Or Your Girlfriend Like a Wife) There I sat in the middle of class letting my mind drift away into thoughts about him. Mr. Dreamy. We’d had such great conversations in the hallway. He was so funny, and he loved…

Steps to overcoming powerlessness part 2 - healing & restoration

Steps to overcoming powerlessness part 2

In our previous blog, we looked at Steps 1 and 2 to overcoming powerlessness: Do the Work of Repentance and Start the Messy Cleanup.  In case you missed it, read it here. Today we’ll take a look at Steps 3 and 4.  

Soul Food: 3 Basic Needs for the Soul - needs of the soul

Soul Food: 3 Basic Needs for the Soul

I have four boys, and they love physical contact. My days are full of wrestling matches, sword fights, and lego man battles. In the midst of all the playing and running and jumping on each other, sometimes one gets hurt.…

Between the Sheets: Sleep and Your Sex Drive - sex

Between the Sheets: Sleep and Your Sex Drive

We all need a bedtime. I’m married with four kids and I have a bedtime. It’s ten o’clock every night. Why? I know myself, and I know what I need. When I make sure to take care of myself and…

Dealing With Abuse - healing & restoration

Dealing With Abuse

  When people counsel women (or men for that matter) to stay in dangerous situations in the name of “submission” they need to have their heads checked. A wife was never called to be a zookeeper, a lion tamer, or…

Date A Man Long Enough - dating

Date A Man Long Enough

In the book Song of Songs, the woman says to her lover, “Your name is like purified oil.” In the Hebrew language, the word for name is best translated to be etched. In this day, a name was much more than what people would call you. A name was…

Seriously Single - singleness

Seriously Single

  Somewhere between the fall of Eve and autumnal fall of 2015, we’ve attached the same feelings we have towards Leprosy to the word ‘singleness’. I don’t know where it came from, I don’t know why we still do it, but rattling around the subconscious in much of the modern…

Finding Our Story Again - healing & restoration

Finding Our Story Again

  God creates a man and a woman in His own image, places them together in a wild garden, and blesses them to enjoy forever the goodness of His creation.  Adam sings and Eve dances into his arms.  Within the…

Is There Hope After Divorce - divorce

Is There Hope After Divorce?

In some circles of the Church, divorce is equal to the unpardonable sin. People who’ve been divorced are treated as if they have the plague. They can’t serve in their church and they’re not trusted. Having suffered through a divorce…

Marriage and Divorce - marriage

Marriage and Divorce

Character, communication and choosing love will sustain, revive and renew a relationship for the long-haul.   “Personality” is easy to understand. Your “personality” is how people experience you. It’s your public persona. Character is who you are when no one…

Seeking the Best For Others - marriage

Seeking the Best For Others

Growing up, when my parents would ask me a question like, “Why did you put that there?” I’d hear an attack. I also learned as a little child that when the chocolate got put out, I should shove as much…