One Day at a Time
I never learned about love and intimacy and being romantic, nor to love my wife as Christ loved the church. If my parents taught me about that kind of love, I missed it. I heard about love and intimacy and…
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When Distraction is a Good Thing
Ok. Here’s the truth. I don’t like going to the gym. I don’t like running. I don’t like exercise. But I have a high value for staying fit. Weird. Let me explain. I’ve always been athletic. All through my school…
Should I Pursue A Girl Who Is Still Healing From Her Past?
Should I even consider pursuing a girl who has pain and possible trauma from her past? Let me explain: she was bullied, hated, raped and suicidal. If she has not been completely healed from all the inner wounds yet, what…
Child Prostitution, Abuse, and BDSM Porn
QUESTION As a child I was made a child prostitute, tortured regularly, and used for child porn. After a lot of therapy I am still addicted to BDSM porn. It calms me down while it is horrifying at the same time.…
Shame in Masturbating
QUESTION Why is it that when I masturbate, it brings me so much shame? Is that common? SEX THERAPIST’S ANSWER That is a great question! You are definitely not alone in feeling shame when you masturbate – it is…
How Do I Renew My Mind After A Porn Addiction?
QUESTION I stopped masturbating and watching pornography awhile ago and God set me free from it but the way I look, think about, and treat women is totally wrong. It’s like porn has left an imprint on me of wrong…
Are Abortions Safer Than Having a Baby?
QUESTION I’ve heard that having an abortion is actually safer than having a baby. Is this true? DOCTOR’S ANSWER No, though we’ve heard the sales pitch about it being otherwise, haven’t we? A long term study from Finland published in…
Pornography and Addiction
THE REALITY: AN ABUNDANT LIFE Mike Bickle says in his book, ‘The Seven Longings of the Human Heart’, Addiction wraps itself around a person, giving their natural appetites an artificial life of their own, while simultaneously short-circuiting their ability to…
Giving God Control
TRADING SHAME FOR JOY From an early age, sex became an interesting and a secret desire. It wasn’t until I was in middle school that it became a daily struggle in my life. I began masturbating every night and it…
From Lonely to Loved
RAW, REAL, RADICAL GRACE When I was 18 years old, I completely compromised my sexual purity in exchange for what felt like acceptance. It was a reality I had never experienced before, but one my heart had hungered after my…
Free From Masturbation
DAY-IN, DAY-OUT FREEDOM Like most girls, I have always wanted to feel loved and desired. Early wounds of rejection enforced lies that I believed — lies that said somehow I was disqualified from the love I longed for, which, of course, only…
Freedom from Porn
Isolation Never Helped Anyone Like a family relative you keep locked in the basement, porn was only let out when no one was home. Growing up poor as the chunky pastor’s daughter in a very liberal, small town set me…