For many women, the real trigger behind pornography use isn't lust. It's self-hatred. When you constantly criticize yourself, compare yourself to others, and punish yourself to try to motivate change, you create an emotional environment where porn becomes a coping…
I have discovered that universally, as humans, our greatest desire is to feel seen and heard, or ultimately, “known”. When a part of us is lost in hiddenness, then we can never be fully known, and without being known, we can’t feel fully loved. It’s when we bravely step out of the darkness where we’ve been trapped by self-judgment that we pave a way for love to get in and defeat the lies that keep us feeling separated from God, life, family and friends.
Breaking free from sexual sin requires more than willpower and more than passive regret. True repentance is an act of spiritual authority. It's not just feeling bad about what you did. It's declaring that the cycle ends here, receiving the…
It’s time we stop talking about pornography as if only men struggle with it. Women are struggling with pornography too... but sometimes the motivators behind porn consumption for women are different than men.
Women struggle with pornography too, and most of them never tell anyone. The cultural assumption that porn is a man's issue creates an extra layer of shame that keeps women isolated, silent, and stuck in cycles they can't break alone.…
Sex. It’s everywhere in our culture, but in so many instances the church is still too uncomfortable to talk about it.
Virginity is not the same as purity. You can be a virgin and have a completely impure heart. You can have lost your virginity and be walking in deep, genuine purity before God. When the church reduces purity to a…
I've sat in the front row of really inspirational church services, staring at the speaker thinking, "Yes. This is it. I will never be the same after this message. My life is changed forever." I've also woken up the next day, been hit with the normalcy and routine of life and thought, "Wait, what did that speaker say at church yesterday?"
We can have all the inspiration in the world pointing us to a life of purity, but without practical ways to walk it out, inspiration fades and we can often find ourselves in the same cycles. So in this post, we are about to get really practical.
Sobriety is the absence of porn. Freedom is the presence of the life Jesus paid for. Most men measure their progress by how long it's been since they last acted out. But freedom isn't a streak counter. It's a direction…
It’s not uncommon to hear of men struggling with porn, but it’s less common to hear men NOT watching porn anymore. Why does it seem to be so complicated to get...