My Porn Petition

Being Real About Pornography


I fasted and prayed for twelve years that somehow the Lord would keep me from looking at porn. I wanted Him to keep me from being tempted. That didnt’ happen. I would have taken some kind of weird “I’m-stuck-to-the-floor-and-can’t-move-to-look-at-porn-no-matter-how-much-I-want-to-but-know-I-shouldn’t-and-I-would-if-I-could-but-I’m-stuck-to-the-floor” experience, something against my will. That didn’t happen either. I didn’t get an impartation of holiness or a magical verse that took my sexual struggle away. I was the most spiritual person that I knew and I couldn’t quit sinning, no matter how immediate and sincere my repentance was, or how noble and pure my intentions were toward everyone around me.


I didn’t get an impartation of holiness or a magical verse that took my sexual struggle away.


One month before I turned twenty-three, I found myself in a unique situation: I was sober enough to see that I was stuck, and, despite my pretensions, with and answers. I felt like my years of confused petitioning of the Lord culminated into the next season of my life. The Lord superseded my healing with His leading. I made myself a part of a group of guys who were seriously finding their purity and their freedom. They didn’t do much that I thought they should, like pray and intercede. They just talked to each other. It was unbelievably uncomfortable. For the first six months, all i could talk about was how bad I messed up and the dirty things i was thinking. For the next six months, I talked about how I was afraid and how I’d been hurt. After that, I started getting more powerful: I told people “no” when I wanted to say “no”. I’d tell people when they hurt my feelings, and when I had a need that they could meet. And after three years of that, I’m somebody that I never thought I could be: someone in control of their emotions and sexuality. My sobriety is measured in months and years now instead of days or weeks, and my freedom is being measured in powerful decisions that I am learning to make

Scott 26, Kentucky 


Top Sex FAQs

LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX

What is sex? Some of us have a straight-forward understanding when it comes to this subject, whereas others of us have some blurred lines that need clarity. In an over-sexualized society, it seems to be the most intriguing, confusing and liberating topic. Every day we are bombarded with sex and sexuality, but what do we do with the hormones, the awkward questions, the boundaries, the desires, the temptations? Apparently men think about sex 70% of the time, two-third of college students have “friends with benefits” relationships, and still many of us are wondering where the line of purity stands. Here are some of your top questions answered to help bring clarity and understanding of yourself and others.


 WHAT IS SEX?

When people talk about sex they are usually referring to sexual intercourse. Sexual intercourse is any sexual contact between individuals involving penetration (the insertion of a man’s penis into a woman’s vagina). Additionally, there are other sexual acts that are also referred to as “sex”. For example, anal sex (the penetration of the anus), oral sex (penetration the of the genitals with the mouth), and fingering (sexual penetration with the fingers).

WHY DOES GOD GIVE US A SEX DRIVE?

God gave us all a sex drive, ultimately, so we would desire to have sex and procreate. God’s initial commandment to Adam and Eve was to “go forth and multiply”. He gave each of us a need to known and be known physically, emotionally and spiritually. Like all desires, there comes a responsibility to steward this gift and use it wisely. Sex has the ability to bond two people together spirit, soul, and body. This is why God designed sex to be experienced fully in the safety and covenant of marriage.

IS ORAL SEX OKAY IN A MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP?

According to our sex therapist: “There is nothing in the Scripture that says that oral sex is wrong. Some make a case that Song of Songs 2:3 and Song of Songs 4:16 are implying oral sex when it talks about eating the fruit of the garden. I do believe it is talking about sex but I am not convinced it is talking specifically about oral sex. So we need to look at what we do know in order to make a wise decision. Sex is about connecting/oneness, pleasure and creating new life. In this frame I would say that oral sex is fine as long as the people involved are married and

OK with it themselves. I do not want anyone to force a partner to do something that they are truly opposed to – that goes against any true bonding and isn’t loving. There is such freedom in sexual expression in marriage – that is one of the fun things about sex in marriage! You can have fun and delight in your spouse’s body. There can be mutual pleasuring, which can include oral sex. If you have had teaching in your church or family that said that oral sex was ungodly, then I would want you to make up your own mind and to be open to looking at what the Bible really says about sex.

But if you come down on the side of oral sex being wrong, then it would be wrong for you. Be open to freedom, but don’t push yourself past any personal conviction you feel. You can have a wonderful fulfilling sex life without it. But in my opinion, there is nothing wrong with oral sex in marriage.”

IS ANAL SEX OKAY IN A MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP?

According to our doctor: “Anal sex is not permitted in scripture due to order, hygiene, and purpose. The anal canal is for waste expulsion. Whatever pleasure sensors exist there make defecation tolerable rather than painful. It’s not ordered as a sex organ, but a disposal unit. It is the down staircase, not the up. The hygiene issue is obvious: a vessel for excrement passage is not suitable for penile insertion, thus anal sex carries with it much higher rates of causing infections and spreading disease.”

According to our sex therapist: “Anal sex is more common than many people think. But it is an unsafe practice in my opinion. Many people have the impression that anal sex is safer because you cannot get pregnant. But it is not safer, it is actually riskier.The risk of getting an infection is greatly increased with anal sex due to tiny tears that can be in the tissue of the rectum or anus making you more susceptible to the transmission of infection. Any sexually transmitted disease can be transmitted through anal sex. It is possible for someone to get pregnant even with anal sex, if sperm are released outside the vaginal opening and make their way to the fallopian tubes. I do not think it promotes intimacy and connection and believe it is best avoided.”

WHAT IS A NORMAL FREQUENCY FOR MARRIED COUPLES TO HAVE SEX?

There is no normal. What each couple is happy with is normal for them. However, there are averages. Depending on the study, the average married couple in the US is having sex 1-2 times per week. For those concerned with how much is “enough” for your spouse, here’s an important triusm to think about: “If you can’t say no, you can’t really say yes.” It’s okay to say “no” if you don’t want to have sex — this will enable you to say “yes” when you really mean it. “Duty sex” or anything under obligation is not fun for anyone. Most husbands will tell you that’s not what they want — they want your “yes”, your enjoyment and your sincerity. Now, if you are saying “no” all of the time, then that’s a different issue. However, saying “no” isn’t going against the Bible; your wishes and desires matter, too. You might even find that you are saying “yes” more often when you discover the reasons why you don’t want to and resolve them in a healthy way with your spouse.

SEX HAS BECOME BORING IN MARRIAGE.
IS IT OKAY TO SPICE IT UP?

According to our sex therapist: “It depends on what you mean by ‘spice it up.’ Sex should be playful and fun. That is part of the delight of being sexual. Loss of inhibition, vulnerability and laughter are all a wonderful part of sex. But sex is always about connecting and oneness. So anything spicy that doesn’t meet that criteria needs to be left alone. That said, most couples need to learn to be creative sexually and give themselves permission to have more fun. Permission granted!”

IS SEXTING WRONG TO DO BETWEEN A BOYFRIEND AND GIRLFRIEND? WHAT IF IT MAKES THEM FEEL CLOSER OR MORE CONNECTED?

First of all, if you’re reading this and you don’t know what sexting is, let me give you quick definition. Sexting is the act of sending sexually explicit messages, primarily through cell phones. It’s a common practice among teenagers and is becoming more common among adults.

One of the logistical problems with sending nude pictures of yourself is that you lose control of the picture the minute you send it — it can be copied, posted or misappropriated once it has been sent. Be aware that those photos can come back to haunt you later on (such as if you’re trying to get a job or applying for a scholarship) if the recipient abuses that information given. Depending on who is receiving them, also be aware that in some states, having underage nude photos can be perceived as child porn, and you can be prosecuted. Simply put, it’s just not wise to send nude photos on the internet or through cell phones.

Sexting a boyfriend or girlfriend is not going to make them feel closer or more connected. It actually can do the opposite. Sexting separates the person from their body and makes them just a body. The desirable method would simply be face-t0-face interaction, or talking on the phone. If you are thinking that you feel more connected because of sexting, then you may be confusing intimacy with sexual behavior. You want to get to know someone as a whole person and sending naked pictures or sexting will interfere with knowing who he/she is. Sexting separates the person (the soul) from the body and we were made to be known at deeper levels.

Sexting only has one purpose: to sexually stimulate the people involved. If you are trying to remain pure, then this is not a wise thing to do. I hear people say that it’s not a big deal, and that it’s okay because it’s not having sex. Let me ask you a question: If your girlfriend sent those pictures to some other guy, would you be OK with it? Why or why not? There is a reason why the wives of a well-known Congressman and a professional football player were upset over the sexting that their husbands were doing with other women. They felt betrayed as if their husbands had been cheating. It is not having physical sex but it is very close. It is sexual behavior that might as well be sex without touching. It crosses a line of intimacy that should be for a husband and wife. So for many reasons, I don’t think sexting or sending naked pictures between a boyfriend and girlfriend is a good or wise thing to do.

AS A CHILD I REPEATEDLY PLAYED DOCTOR.
WAS IT SIN? AM I REQUIRED TO DO SOMETHING?

According to our sex therapist: “Playing doctor is a universal, innocent expression of sexual curiosity that is normal. It is normal for children to be sexually curious and to play, “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours.” This curiosity signals to parents a need for specific sexual education and boundaries with doors open, and parents nearby. Sexual curiosity is natural. As children we should never have been punished or embarrassed for showing our curiosity. It is natural to ask questions about sex and to discover our own bodies, as well as observe other’s bodies and have questions about them. So to answer your question, No, it wasn’t sin.”

WHY IS SEX SOMETIMES PAINFUL FOR A WOMAN? WHAT CAN SHE (WE) DO ABOUT IT?

According to our doctor: “Painful intercourse, or dyspareunia, can have many causes other than just vaginal tightness, and the physician can perform a detailed history and careful physical exam to sort things out. A gynecologist can get you set up with a dilation program to comfortably stretch out the vagina, if that turns out to be the main issue. In the mean time, using ample water-based lubricants (e.g., K-Y Jelly), pre-dosing with anti-inflammatory drugs (e.g., Ibuprofen, naproxen, etc.), gentle but plentiful foreplay, great communication, and lots of patience will help.”


Top Masturbation FAQ’s

 THE M-WORD

 

The topic of masturbation is often regarded as either “perfectly normal and healthy” or “dirty and taboo.” Moral Revolution believes that masturbation is a subject we must talk about with honesty and respect. In this section we start the conversation and answer some of your most frequently asked questions about the m-word.


 WHAT IS MASTURBATION?

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines masturbation as erotic stimulation, especially of one’s own genital organs resulting in orgasm. Oftentimes, individuals choose to masturbate by manual stimulation, instrumental manipulation (toys), sexual fantasies (pornography and/or past sexual experiences), or by various combinations of these agencies.

CAN MASTURBATING MAKE MY PENIS LARGER?

According to our doctor, “As for masturbation making a penis larger, it is not going to happen. Conversely, not masturbating will have no negative effects on penis size either. Masturbation doesn’t make a penis bigger, not masturbating doesn’t make a penis smaller. Young men are often concerned about penis length, but should not be. Erections have been called the great equalizer, since their average length is about 5 inches in most men. Even at smaller erection sizes, a man can generally still sexually satisfy his wife. The point is that the odds are overwhelming that you’ve already got what it takes, so to speak, and masturbating will not add to it.”

IF I MASTURBATE, AM I NO LONGER A VIRGIN?

According to our doctor, “A person is considered to be a virgin until they have sexual intercourse. That is called primary virginity. Secondary virginity refers to choosing to abstain from intercourse after having already had it. You are still a virgin if you have masturbated.

I specified “sexual intercourse” because there are other uses of the term virgin, such as, someone who has yet to do one thing or another for the first time. With that in mind, one could say one is no longer a masturbation virgin after having masturbated, but that is not the clear and time-honored understanding of virginity.

WHY IS IT, WHEN I MASTURBATE, THAT IT BRINGS ME SO MUCH SHAME?
IS THAT COMMON?

According to our sex therapist, “That is a great question! You are definitely not alone in feeling shame when you masturbate – it is very common. I congratulate you for going beyond asking, “Is it right or wrong?”, to asking, “What is causing me to feel shame?” That is the real issue.

Unfortunately, I believe there is a lot of shame around sexual issues for believers, due to misunderstanding, fear and wrong teaching. It is false shame. Sexual arousal is a good thing. Sexual desire is a good thing. Your sex drive is a good thing. Being a sexual being is a good thing. It is what you do with it – how you manage it – that is important.

A couple of observations to help you sort this out – with Christians, I see more shame around masturbation, more anger and condemnation, than I do about sex outside of marriage. Telling people to not have sex outside of marriage is clearly in Scripture, but masturbation is not. So why is that?

In addition, let’s say you believe that masturbation is wrong for you, that it is something that you do not want to do. Why the intense shame? Isn’t it more of a behavior that you want to stop, rather than an indication that you are a perverted person? But many describe the shame associated with masturbation as feeling perverted. Historically we have taught that the shame was proof that the behavior was wrong. I would ask you to think about whether that is true.

Maybe masturbation is a behavior that you do not want to do – that is for you to decide. Here are some questions to ask ourselves about shame:

What do you think is going on?
What response to God does shame cause in you?
Do you run to Him or hide?
Do you love Him more or does it cause you to be afraid of Him at some level?
Does it separate you from God?

We have said in the past, that “Yes, it has separated us from God, because it was sin.” But is that really the case or is it because there is something else going on? Being a sexual being is such a part of who we are, our identity. It is such a part of being made in the image of God. So we know ourselves and we know Him more intimately through our sexuality. If the enemy can cause shame and disconnect here, at that deep personhood level, then he can lay roadblocks to knowing and experiencing the love of God and the freedom and power that understanding and revelation can bring.

I believe that shame carries a spirit with it and would encourage you to not entertain it at all. No matter what your past is with masturbation, get rid of the shame. Shame is not from the Lord.”

WHAT DOES THE BIBLE HAVE TO SAY ABOUT MASTURBATION?

The simple answer comes down to this: the actual word masturbation cannot be found anywhere in the Bible. We know that there is reference to it, but it is not explicitly mentioned.

IS MASTURBATION A SIN?

Because the Bible is silent regarding masturbation we, as a team, cannot call masturbation a sin. However, because masturbation is so often coupled with lust – pornography, sexual fantasy – all of which the Bible is very clear are sin we strongly advise to stay away from anything that might tempt you to lust.  James 1:14-15 keeps us sober to where lust leads, “But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust. Then when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and when sin is accomplished, it brings forth death.

IS MASTURBATING TO THE FANTASY OF MY FUTURE SPOUSE A SIN?

Yes, fantasizing about having sex with someone you are not married to, even if it is your future spouse, would be lustful, making it sinful and wrong. In addition, it would be objectifying that person since you would be using him to satisfy yourself sexually. There is no relationship. We tend to understand that men are objectifying women when they look at pictures of women and fantasize about them sexually. But women are doing the same thing to men when they use them in fantasies during masturbation. Fantasies like this also are idealized in that they are not real life. The imagined encounter is perfect and all about the one having the fantasy, instead of the give and take of actual relationship. It can interfere with real relationships, because there is an expectation and pairing of sexual response with something that is not real.

I’M A PARENT WHO HAS DISCOVERED THAT MY CHILD IS MASTURBATING OFTEN. ANY ADVICE?

According to our sex therapist, “Unfortunately this is more common than most parents realize. Teenager’s brains have not finished maturing yet. The prefrontal cortex is the part that develops last and that is the part that says, “That’s not a good idea, don’t do that!” And this is going on at a time that hormones are raging!

The best advice that I can give you is to keep the lines of communication open by being nonjudgmental and calm. Listen more than you talk, and ask questions to try to understand your son’s heart. What are his thoughts about sex and purity? Even if you do not agree, you can accept his answers by saying something like, ” That does not sound like the healthiest decision, but I can understand why you might think that.” Give him facts, alternatives to the decisions he is making, but send the message that you believe he is able to make responsible decisions–even if you are terrified about the things he is saying!

Talk with him about his vision of the kind of man he wants to be. Then come along side him and help him make a plan to reach his own goal. It is his plan and you are just a consultant. Let him come up with solutions and own his problem. When parents are scared they often come down too hard on their kids and begin to control their behavior. That will not work in the long run. It actually can lead to more rebellion and the very thing you are trying to stop. And kids are masters at recognizing your fear and letting you take responsibility for their problems. You really want your son to know how to make his own responsible decisions. “Parenting Teens with Love and Logic” is a great resource. Also Danny Silk’s, “Loving Our Kids on Purpose”.

At the end of the day, as hard and scary as it is, your son needs to know how much he is loved and believed in. And you need that too from your Father – trust Him with those you love and pray and claim his promises for your family.”

IS MASTURBATING WITH YOUR SPOUSE A SIN?

According to our sex therapist, “With any sexual behavior we want to ask the question, ‘Is this behavior helping me be more intimate with my spouse, is it loving?’ So if masturbation with your spouse is a part of being intimate and loving, and you would say yes to that, then I would say it’s fine. If masturbation with your spouse is more of an individual thing where you are not connecting or you are using each other, then I would say it would not be the best choice for that couple.

I AM A TEENAGE GIRL, OBSESSED WITH BOYS, AND I MASTURBATE WHICH AFFECTS MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD.
IS MY PASSION FOR BOYS NORMAL? ALSO, HOW CAN I STOP MASTURBATING?

According to our sex therapist, “It is normal for a 16 year old girl to feel passionate about boys! You have a sex drive and that is God given. You just have to manage it and not have it manage you. You say that masturbation is affecting your relationship with God. I just want to remind you how much God loves you and nothing you can do will change that. Masturbation is a behavior, a behavior that you might be wanting to stop – but it is not who you are. You might be masturbating and that is against your values. If it is, then I would say it would be a good thing to stop. But God loves you no matter what and will help you if you want to stop that behavior. Often when people cross their values, they feel shame and hide from God just like Adam did in the Garden. But it is God who comes looking for you because he loves you and wants to commune with you. He is not disappointed in you or ashamed of you – he is so willing to help you. So go to him and partner with him if there is a behavior you want to stop. And believe what he says about you, that you are dearly loved and accepted – just the way you are. So you can relax and rest in the fact that he delights in you and gave you a sex drive that he wants you to learn to manage. And he will help you as you learn to do that. He really is that good!”


Top Birth Control FAQ’s

WHAT ABOUT BIRTH CONTROL?

 Birth control can be the subject of much dispute among Christians when it comes to sexual health, marriage and family planning, but it doesn’t need to be. It is our desire at Moral Revolution to inform people about healthy sexual lifestyles and practices in order that they would feel empowered in their choices. We’re committed to bringing the facts so that you can make an informed decision. When it comes to this subject, we’ve tried to answer some of your top questions to bring clarity, wisdom and (Biblical) truth.


 WHAT IS BIRTH CONTROL, EXACTLY?

Birth control is simply the practice used by men and women to prevent unwanted pregnancies, typically by use of contraception.

WHAT ARE THE MOST COMMONLY USED METHODS OF BIRTH CONTROL?

The most commonly used methods of birth control are: abstinence, the The Billings Ovulation Method (rhythm method), oral contraceptives (the pill), diaphragms, vaginal rings, and condoms.

WHY USE BIRTH CONTROL?

The number one reason people use birth control is to practice family planning. However, medical studies show that oral contraceptives, containing hormones, have aided women whom suffer from heavy bleeding, painful cramping, ovarian cysts, and acne.

WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BIRTH CONTROL AND ABORTION?

Birth control is the practice of preventing unwanted pregnancies, whereas, abortion is the deliberate termination of a human pregnancy. The goal of birth control is to prevent conception. The goal of abortion is to terminate a pregnancy. Sadly, oftentimes abortion is utilized as a form of birth control, and they are two very different things.

CAN BIRTH CONTROL USE CAUSE AN ABORTION?

Some types of contraceptives may cause an abortion, and we wouldn’t recommend using any form that is abortive in nature. These contraceptives, including IUDs, work both by interfering with the sperm and also by “post-fertilization mechanisms.” That means they prevent the fertilized eggs/zygotes/embryos from implanting in the uterus. Even newer IUDs appear to induce early abortions in some cases.

However, there are forms of birth control that prevent conception. For example, the hormones in “the pill” work by keeping eggs from leaving the ovaries or act as a barrier to the sperm reaching the egg by making cervical mucus thicker. Condoms also prevent the sperm from reaching the egg. In these cases, there is no fertilization and therefore there is no life. It is no different than an egg being released unfertilized during a typical menstrual cycle. Yes, you are taking steps to interfere in the potential fertilization, which is a problem for some, but you are not aborting a life.

It should also be mentioned that women on oral contraceptives, since they have fewer conceptions, actually have a lower rate of miscarriage (spontaneous abortion). Some would argue this is a moral good, in favor of oral contraceptive use.

With all that said, you should not take any form of birth control if you think you might be pregnant.

IS BIRTH CONTROL MORALLY WRONG?

This would depend on your own personal convictions and conscience. Besides talking about it with God and deciding whether or not this would be a suitable choice for yourself and your spouse, talk to your family doctor as well. Many types of birth control aren’t abortifacient (preventing fertilized egg from implanting), but rather keep an egg from being released/fertilized or act as a barrier to the sperm reaching the egg. Since there is no fertilization, there is no life and it is no different than an egg being released unfertilized during the typical menstrual cycle. Yes, you are taking steps to interfere with potential fertilization but you are not aborting a life.

Do we believe it’s morally wrong to use birth control? No. Do we believe that it can lead to the breakdown of families and to other issues of thought? Yes. The main point is that we should consider this an important life decision which requires thought, research, prayer and insight.

There is the question of the intention and effect of artificial contraception as a whole, apart from any abortifacient concern. Though the most famous teachings against it have been by various Popes (Pius XI and John Paul II come to mind), you don’t have to read an entire papal encyclical to get it. Sexual intercourse is meant for husband and wife for purposes of unity and procreation/generation. To abstain for a few days timed to periods of infertility violates nothing, but to bring in artificial means designed to separate the sex act from its purpose is where the problems start, ultimately leading to a demeaned value of life (for example, seeing children as problems and burdens rather than gifts) which negatively carries over to other areas.

WE DON’T WANT TO USE AN ARTIFICIAL OR MEDICALLY PRESCRIBED FORM OF BIRTH CONTROL, BUT WE ALSO DON’T WANT TO GET PREGNANT RIGHT AWAY. WHAT ARE OUR OPTIONS?

Natural family planning is an entirely acceptable method of birth control. The Billings Ovulation Method (BOM) in particular entails monitoring fertility by identifying when your wife is fertile/infertile and during each ovarian/menstrual cycle. The Billings/ cervical mucus method was shown in a 1992 British Journal of Medicine article to be cheap, effective, side-effect free, and reliable with a success rate equivalent to combined oral contraceptive pills.

Click here for more on Natural Family Planning.


Abortion Procedures

QUESTION


 Can you explain what happens during an abortion procedure?

ANSWER

There are various procedures used to abort a pregnancy.
The procedure is chosen depending on how far along the pregnancy is.

Within 4 to 7 weeks after last menstrual period (LMP): RU486, Mifepristone (Abortion Pill)

This drug is only approved for use in women up to the 49th day after their last menstrual period. The procedure usually requires three office visits. On the first visit, the woman is given pills to cause the death of the embryo. Two days later, if the abortion has not occurred, she is given a second drug which causes cramps to expel the embryo. The last visit is a follow up ultrasound to determine if the procedure has been completed.

RU486 will not work in the case of an ectopic pregnancy. This is a potentially life-threatening condition in which the embryo lodges outside of the uterus, usually in the fallopian tube. If not diagnosed early, the tube may burst, causing internal bleeding and in some cases, the death of the woman.

Up to 7 weeks after last menstrual period (LMP): Manual Vacuum Aspiration

This surgical abortion is done early in the pregnancy up until 7 weeks after the woman’s last menstrual period. A long, thin tube is inserted into the uterus. A large syringe is attached to the tube and the embryo is suctioned out.

Between 6 to 14 weeks after LMP: Suction Curettage

This is the most common surgical abortion procedure. Because the baby is larger, the doctor must first stretch open the cervix using metal rods. Opening the cervix may be painful, so local or general anesthesia is typically needed. After the cervix is stretched open, the doctor inserts a hard plastic tube into the uterus, and then connects this tube to a suction machine. The suction pulls the fetus’ body apart and out of the uterus. The doctor may also use a loop-shaped knife called a curette to scrape the fetus and fetal parts out of the uterus. (The doctor may refer to the fetus and fetal parts as the “products of conception.”).

Between 13 to 24 weeks after LMP: Dilation and Evacuation (D&E)

This surgical abortion is done during the second trimester of pregnancy. At this point in pregnancy, the fetus is too large to be broken up by suction alone and will not pass through the suction tubing. In this procedure, the cervix must be opened wider than in a first trimester abortion. This is done by inserting numerous thin rods made of seaweed a day or two before the abortion. Once the cervix is stretched open the doctor pulls out the fetal parts with forceps. The fetus’ skull is crushed to ease removal. A sharp tool (called a curette) is also used to scrape out the contents of the uterus, removing any remaining tissue.


Top Abortion FAQ’s

ABORTION

We are living in a generation that is fundamentally at war over the family, and even more basically, over the value of human life. Statistics show that 40% of unplanned pregnancies end in abortion and by age 45, 30% of American women will have had an abortion.

It is Moral Revolution’s core belief that there is no such thing as an unwanted child. Below you will find the most common questions that we receive regarding abortion. This is by no means an exhaustive expression of our thoughts on the topic, but it will give you some guidance as to what we believe at our core.


 WHAT IS ABORTION?

Abortion is the deliberate termination of a human pregnancy, most often performed during the first 28 weeks of pregnancy.

WHAT ARE THE MEDICAL RISKS ASSOCIATED WITH ABORTION?

Side effects may occur with induced abortion, whether surgical or by pill. These include abdominal pain and cramping, nausea, vomiting, and diarrhea.  Abortion also carries the risk of significant complications such as bleeding, infection, and damage to organs.  Serious complications occur in less than 1 out of 100 early abortions and in about 1 out of every 50 later abortions. Complications may include:

Heavy Bleeding – Some bleeding after abortion is normal. However, if the cervix is torn  or the uterus is punctured, there is a risk of severe bleeding known as hemorrhaging. When this happens, a blood transfusion may be required.  Severe bleeding is also a risk with the use of RU486.  One in 100 women who use RU486 require surgery to stop the bleeding.

Infection – Infection can develop from the insertion of medical instruments into the uterus, or from fetal parts that are mistakenly left inside (known as an incomplete abortion).  A pelvic infection may lead to persistent fever over several days and extended hospitalization.  It can also cause scarring of the pelvic organs.

Incomplete Abortion – Some fetal parts may be mistakenly left inside after the abortion. Bleeding and infection may result.

Sepsis – A number of RU486 or mifepristone users have died as a result of sepsis (total body infection).

Anesthesia – Complications from general anesthesia used during abortion surgery may result in convulsions, heart attack, and in extreme cases, death.  It also increases the risk of other serious complications by two and a half times.

Damage to the Cervix – The cervix may be cut, torn, or damaged by abortion instruments.  This can cause excessive bleeding that requires surgical repair.

Scarring of the Uterine Lining – Suction tubing, curettes, and other abortion instruments may cause permanent scarring of the uterine lining.

Perforation of the Uterus – The uterus may be punctured or torn by abortion instruments. The risk of this complication increases with the length of the pregnancy. If this occurs, major surgery may be required, including removal of the uterus (known as a hysterectomy).

Damage to Internal Organs – When the uterus is punctured or torn, there is also a risk that damage will occur to nearby organs such as the bowel and bladder.

Death – In extreme cases, other physical complications from abortion including excessive bleeding, infection, organ damage from a perforated uterus, and adverse reactions to anesthesia may lead to death. This complication is rare, but is real.

Abortion & Preterm Birth – Women who undergo one or more induced abortions carry a significantly increased risk of delivering prematurely in the future.

ARE THERE ANY EMOTIONAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL CONSEQUENCES OF HAVING AN ABORTION?

Yes, there is evidence that abortion is associated with a decrease in both emotional and physical health.  For some women these negative emotions may be very strong, and can appear within days or after many years.  Some women report the following: eating disorders, relationship problems, guilt, depression, flashbacks of abortion, suicidal thoughts, sexual dysfunction, alcohol and drug abuse.

WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT ABORTION?

Abortion, at it’s core, is the taking of another person’s life. The Bible is very clear about this. In Exodus 20:13, God tells his people, “You shall not murder.” Since human life begins at conception, then abortion by choice becomes premeditated murder.

IF A WOMAN BECOMES PREGNANT BY RAPE OR INCEST, DOES SHE HAVE THE RIGHT TO ABORT THE BABY?

Statistics show that less than 1% of abortions are administered due to rape or incest. The deeper question here is, does a child lose his or her right to live because of the way in which he or she was conceived.

WHAT IF I KNOW THAT MY CHILD IS GOING TO BE BORN WITH A DISABILITY?

Disability-discrimination abortion is similar to gender-discrimination abortion, where a particular child, initially wanted, is aborted because that child is a boy or a girl. Again, the deeper question is, does a child lose his or her right to live because of his or her potential disability.

IS THERE COUNSELLING AND HEALING AVAILABLE IF I’VE HAD AN ABORTION?

Absolutely, there is hope and healing available for you. We strongly encourage you to seek the Lord, professional counselling and/or support groups in your area. There may even be a small group available in your home church. You are not alone. We speak His mercy and kindness over you in your journey.

BEYOND ABORTION, WHAT ARE MY OTHER CHOICES IF I FIND MYSELF PREGNANT?

There are a ton! We strongly encourage you to prayerfully consider keeping your child, adoption, and/or inviting your church community into your process. We know this is probably a scary time for you and you may be feeling overwhelmed, but there is help and support available for you: relational, practical and financial.

WHERE CAN I GO TO FIND SUPPORT?

For help finding resources such as community referrals for housing, food, legal aid, medical care, counseling, WIC, Social Services, Nurse Family Partnership Program, education on topics such as prenatal care, nutrition, newborn baby care,  breastfeeding, discipline, life skills, parenting, nutrition, finance, etc., consult your local pregnancy center.


Sex Trafficking

CALLED AND ANOINTED TO END SLAVERY


Moral Revolution is sober to the fact that God has called and is anointing this generation to bring an end to the sex slave industry. Currently, there are over 27 million people in 161 countries trapped in slavery. We believe that we are living in a generation that is called and anointed to end sex slavery. It is our heart to shed light on this moral issue and we would love to introduce you to the following organizations who are leading the charge to see this 32 billion dollar business close its doors in our lifetime:

A-21 Campaign

www.a21.org

End It Movement

www.enditmovement.com

Exodus Cry

www.exoduscry.com

iDignify

www.idignify.com

Unlikely Heroes

www.unlikelyheroes.com


Gender Confusion

QUESTION


Right now in my life I’m so confused. I feel like my sexuality is all over the place. I am a girl and I like girls and I like guys. I also have gender issues. I don’t want to be a girl and don’t want to be a boy. I even dress so people can’t tell my gender. I am a Christian and I know this stuff is wrong. I need advice!

 

SEX THERAPIST’S ANSWER

There is so much that I don’t know about your question. If I had to guess, I would say that you are in your teens. If so, that is the time that you are supposed to be deciding who you are and who you will be. This is a time when many young people try out different identities to see what fits. It can be confusing for some, especially if they have a history of trauma. For example, if you are female and you get abused, it can cause you to hate being a girl because if you weren’t female, then this would not have happened to you. Or if you are male and you get abused then you can hate your very masculinity or have a difficult time feeling masculine. In addition, right now in our culture, being androgynous is celebrated. So I can understand why this is confusing for some.

Some thoughts:

1. Is being androgynous just a way to feel unique and different at a time in life when teens like to shock and test the boundaries?

2. Does it give you a sense of power and/or does it help you hide?

3. If so, when did it start for you?

4. What was going on when you began to dress so no one would know your gender?

5. Does anyone really know who you are?

6. You appear to be hiding–do you like who you are inside apart from your sexuality?

Sometimes girls can really dislike themselves and when they look at a girl who they admire or who seems to be everything they wish that they were, they think that they are sexually attracted to that girl, when in reality, they wish that they could BE that girl. They are really sexually attracted to guys but it can feel the same and be confusing. So try to decide if this is going on for you and separate out being sexually attracted from just being attracted–they are two different things.

I would encourage you to read Kris’ book the Supernatural Ways of Royalty and begin to understand who you are. Our gender is such an integral part of who we are and who we perceive ourselves to be. Maybe you don’t think you fit the typical pattern of a female in this culture but that does not have to be a bad thing. We get a lot of our gender identity from being taught how men or women behave in our particular culture. We have a certain view of femininity but in other cultures that might be different. So it is not all ingrained behavior in being a woman, there are some behaviors that are but others are taught by what is acceptable or deemed as important in the culture. If you think that you don’t fit our particular model, it could be that we need to see women who are more like you. Knowing who God has created you to be in all your uniqueness is a part of the adventure that he has planned for you – you can celebrate who you are because he does. And we really can’t know who we are outside of knowing God. So really get to know him as the good father that he is and spend time in his presence. He delights in you and made you in his image–he particularly planned who you would be and crafted you in your mother’s womb. You are intentionally planned and desired. You are made to have purpose and meaning, to be significant and to make a difference.

If you have experienced trauma in your life, that might be making it difficult to know these things – I would encourage you to get help from someone who understands trauma and can help you to heal. You will be amazed at the difference it can make for you in helping you to celebrate who you are and to delight in your gender. It really is worth it!