Is Birth Control Morally Right?

Heath Wise, LPC

Birth Control


I’m a newly-wed. My wife wants to have sex using condoms/pills to prevent pregnancy. I don’t think that is morally right for the same reason I am against abortion. I understand that sex is about intimacy, but it is also about procreation and I don’t think they should be separated. What’s right?



I appreciate your tender conscience! This is a huge question that I am not going to be able to do justice to in this forum. There are solid believers who come down on both sides of this issue. One of my professors in graduate school felt very strongly about not using birth control. He felt like it was taking our cue from the culture rather than taking our opinions from God. The church has historically been against using birth control because it interfered with procreation. However, the argument falls down for me because they were OK with natural family planning which is not as effective as birth control to be sure but is still taking steps to interfere with procreation.

But it sounds like your objection to birth control is more on the killing of a life such as with abortion rather than the prevention of conception – those are two very different things. Just like you, I am against any form of birth control that is an abortifacient, that keeps a fertilized egg from implanting, such as an IUD. But there are forms of birth control that prevent conception such as a condom or birth control pill. They either keep an egg from being released/fertilized or they are a barrier to the sperm reaching the egg. There is no fertilization therefore there is no life. It is no different than an egg being released unfertilized with every menstrual cycle. Yes, you are taking steps to interfere in the potential fertilization which is a problem for some, but you are not aborting a life. God can get around a condom and birth control pills, and even a vasectomy. There are children born today where the parents were using all these methods. I do believe that children are a blessing of God. And I also believe that we can seek his guidance about when to have children and how many to have – we partner with him in the process. We need to use wisdom because life is so important and we value children so highly.

Again, there are sincere, committed believers who will strongly disagree with me. So it is important for you to read the arguments and see where you come down in this debate. However, if your objection is based on the abortion of a life with a condom or birth control pill, then that is not the case.

4 Responses to “Is Birth Control Morally Right?”

  1. Can you specify what some of the non-abortifacient birth control pills are?
    When I researched them I had a hard time finding any that did not have some kind of backup method that would interfere with implantation or something if the primary method failed.

  2. Lauren Goodwin

    I really appreciate the honesty and openness of this article, however birth control pills do not always stop an egg from being released, but they do turn the uterus into a hostile environment for implantation, so some (myself included) feel the pill would still be considered to have abortifacient effects. For more info and to make an informed decision read “does the birth control pill cause abortions” by randy Alcorn. Lots of scientific info about how the pill works.

  3. Kristi Bates

    This is a great question posed, and I think it’s extremely important for believers to consider this when entering into marriage. Both my husband and I did not have peace about using birth control, but we have used Natural Family Planning. When seeking the Lord about this, I got a great sense that He wants us to surrender this area of our life to Him… to not try to take “control”! He showed me that I can be using NFP and still not have this area surrendered to Him. I think for people who have reservations about having children and are using different forms of birth control, it is so good to open and honest with the Lord about our desires (i.e. Preventing or delaying pregnancy), and letting Him
    speak back, and surrendering to whatever He would tell us. I do believe He loves FRUIT, but He is after our hearts. It is not about right and wrong with Him (aka The Law), but about true Life and intimate relationship.

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