Reader's Question

Dear Sex Therapist,
Will I be to small down there to fit his penis?

Sex Therapist's Answer

The answer is no. The vaginal opening is made from muscles that surround the vagina that contract or relax. When a woman gets aroused, the vagina actually increases in size both in length and in width to be able to accept an erect penis. Remember, you are made to be able to have a baby - the baby's head, which is bigger than a penis, comes through that opening.

When you first have sex, it can feel tight so use lots of lubrication. But if you can relax and enjoy your arousal, it will not feel as tight. Over time, it won't bother you at all. It is always a good idea to have a gynecological checkup before you get married and have sex for the first time. If you still have questions about whether you are too small, your doctor can physically examine you and set your mind at ease.