The 23 Year Old Virgin

Moral Revolution Team

Sex

“A 23 Year Old What?”


A 23 year old virgin. How would you describe me?
Desirable? Attractive? Pathetic? Inexperienced? Mature? Lucky? Wise?

I guess this probably depends on your thoughts about virginity. Or maybe on your experience. Maybe you’re still trying to figure out what you think about it. Perhaps no one ever told you that your virginity was something to be valued. Perhaps someone took advantage of you, and you didn’t know how to stop them. Perhaps you believed the status quo that told us that sex was “cool” or “necessary” for relational advancement. Perhaps you grew up in the church, being told that sex was bad and “fornicators go to hell” but when you’re married it’s wonderful and euphoric. Perhaps you never heard anyone talk about sex, but you saw plenty of it in movies, your favorite TV shows, and music videos.

Personally, I grew up in the church. I was afraid of sex. Not because I missed puberty and had no desire for it, but because I knew nothing about it. Constantly reminded of its negative side effects (unwanted pregnancy, STIs, social shame, etc), I knew enough to know that keeping sex inside of marriage made sense. What got confusing was hearing my friends talk about having sex and fooling around like it was the norm. Like it was awesome.

I didn’t understand. Didn’t they know that sex was only meant for marriage? Didn’t they know of all the bad things that could happen as a result? Why were they willing to take the risk? What was I missing?

Sex is beautiful. But because of my fear-driven abstinence, I couldn’t see that. I couldn’t see the powerful, bonding, and life-giving gift for what it was. I was afraid of it. How would a gold ring eradicate a life-long fear that had been so well-manicured in my heart? The truth is, it wouldn’t have.

You see, now that I understand (a bit more of) how beautiful and life-giving and bonding sex really is, I feel excited to share that with my husband. Marriage protects the God-intended effects of sex.

Sex was always a gift, and I can’t wait for my birthday!

 

– Anna Weygandt (Intern)

 

One Response to “The 23 Year Old Virgin”

  1. Hi Anna, It’s very brave of you to share your story. My son is 19 and he is gorgeous and a virgin. I have never made sex a bad thing, in fact he cant wait to have sex with his wife one day. He knows that he could give part of himself away to other girls, but then he wont be able to give 100% to his wife and he wants to have the best sex life for many years and for him its worth the wait. I am so proud of him, but I do believe that the strength to wait is a gift from God, especially in today’s world. Your husband will treasure you and he will be the luckiest man to have a women that is completely his. You are an inspiration!
    Bless ya heaps
    Mellissa

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